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User Profile: neatSailboat1411
neatSailboat1411 December 31st, 2023

I owe it to myself to stop being afraid to disappoint people. I act so immature and agreeable in order to get people to like me. I’ll ridicule myself to make people laugh, so they like me.. Guess what, I have no friends…. None of it worked… I need to find out who I am as I am.


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User Profile: plumSugar2711
plumSugar2711 January 3rd, 2024

@neatSailboat1411 Tell me about it.

I've lived that way for a long time now, having lived with people who were always condescending. Had to twist myself like a pretzel (figuratively speaking) to gain their approval. Didn't work.


That translates into other aspects of my life. Going to a place with that mentality.

Currently reading books and watching some videos on how to overcome this.


I've gained no friends this way as well.


Courage, confidence, assertiveness and authenticity are my areas of focus💙


I hope you fund a way out of it too 💙 

User Profile: plumSugar2711
plumSugar2711 January 3rd, 2024

@neatSailboat1411 Tell me about it.

I've lived that way for a long time now, having lived with people who were always condescending. Had to twist myself like a pretzel (figuratively speaking) to gain their approval. Didn't work.


That translates into other aspects of my life. Going to a place with that mentality.

Currently reading books and watching some videos on how to overcome this.


I've gained no friends this way as well.


Courage, confidence, assertiveness and authenticity are my areas of focus💙


I hope you fund a way out of it too 💙 

User Profile: PiecesOfWhoeverIWas
PiecesOfWhoeverIWas January 3rd, 2024

@neatSailboat1411 I relate so much. How is it we end up doing this to ourselves? I can’t even try to imagine being one of those people on the other end who make us feel like we have to keep them fulfilled. Not everyone does that, but the ones who don’t usually aren’t interested in being my friend anyway. I applaud you for your self-reflection!

User Profile: calmMango9611
calmMango9611 May 5th, 2024

@neatSailboat1411 I hope that at some point, you can start to make friends