🍃The real reason your self-esteem isn’t improving🍃
Most people think low self-esteem means:
“I’m not good enough.”🍁
That’s not the real problem.🍂
The real problem is this:
👉 You don’t trust yourself.🌌
And your brain has a reason for that.
Every time you avoid something uncomfortable,☁️
your brain records it:
❌ “I backed out.”
❌ “I stayed silent.”
❌ “I couldn’t handle it.”
Over time, it builds an identity👾:
“I’m not capable.”
This isn’t just mindset ~ it’s how your brain works 🧠
Your brain updates your self-image based on your actions,
not your thoughts.💭
So if you keep waiting to feel confident before acting…
you’re training yourself to stay stuck.➿️
Confidence doesn’t come first.🌳
⚡ Action comes first.
Then your brain slowly learns:
✔ “I did it.”
✔ “I survived.”
✔ “Maybe I can handle things.”
That’s how self-esteem is built.
Not in one big moment.
But through small, repeated proof.
Start simple:
• Do what you said you’d do today
• Face one thing you’ve been avoiding
• Speak ~even if your voice shakes
• Stop comparing and come back to your own path
Small actions → repeated proof → stronger self-trust 🔁
That’s the system.
You’re not broken.
You’re just stuck in a pattern.
And patterns can be changed.
So tell me honestly 👇
What is one thing you’re avoiding right now?
I was avoiding a call because I know it's going to disturb my peace but later on I answered and dealt with it.
Better to get things over and done with :)
Good that you faced it😇 — that matters.🍃
Just notice the pattern: you delayed first☁️, then acted.
That delay is what weakens self-trust.🔮
Next time, try acting the moment 🚄you feel like avoiding it.
That’s where real confidence starts.🌟
Have a great time🍁🍁🍁
Take care of yourself 🌳🌳🌳
@Aelmiron I'll see how I feel, there were other factors about not jumping in :) You take care too :)
@Aelmiron
What is one thing you’re avoiding right now? avoiding 2 things one is job that has not done what was expected was in a 6 month to hire permanently here 2 years and always a reason it has not been made perm.
The only change I guess will be PTO as now I do not get vacation time paid thru temp agency.
Also, the company has a small match on 401K program although the temp company 401K is doing very well for me. This is very close to home and flexible, but I need to move on even if not as convenient for my best interest. Have spoken to people but always ends with it is above them type answer.
I also need to be firmer with a close friend that I do not appreciate their attempts at things when they are guessing what I like ... just ask saves us both time pretending to appreciate effort and choking down a meal I hate to save their feelings. and save their attempts of saying sorry they thought i liked it ..... known each other for decades but I can tell them all about them they never put in effort and assume I like things that I do not. I want to tell them please stop it is insulting showing me they do not care enough to ask or pay attention.
I told them recently I like cucumbers.......... so, they told me they bought one it is in refrigerator I went to get it................... no cucumber but there was a zucchini.
You’ve already done the hard part 😇~ you’re seeing the pattern clearly.💠
In both situations, it’s the same thing:
holding back when a clear action is needed.
• Job — staying without a firm decision
• Friend — feeling something, but not expressing it
This can slowly affect how you see yourself.🍃
You don’t have to fix everything at once.🕊
Just start with one step:
→ have one honest conversation🌟
→ or set a clear deadline for your next move🌟
Action will bring clarity.🌳
I understand that your situations are overwhelming.
It might help to look at where you’re being patient… 🌌
and where you might actually be holding back when something needs to change.🌲
Have a great time!!!🌳
Take care of yourself 🌳🌳🌳
