Value yourself

I think the best way to gain self esteem and self respect is to value your time properly.

Usually we don't value our time as much as we should. When someone ask us a favour, we readily agree. People start taking us as push overs.

And mind you, a pushover has no self esteem.

So start valuing your time and your energy. Spend it on things worth your effort. When someone ask a favour or something like that, considered the worth of your time first.

Only when you start valuing yourself, your efforts and your time, will you gain respect of yourself and the others. Self esteem, than, naturally follows.