Self-Harm Recovery Check-In - Saturday, December 25, 2021
Merry Christmas to everyone who celebrates it!
Check-In Questions
1) How are you feeling?
2) What is going well for you?
3) What is not going well for you?
4) Do you celebrate Christmas? If so, how? If not, how do you celebrate your favourite holiday?
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1) How are you feeling?
This stumped me. I actually do not know how I am feeling. I think a mixture of bitter and sweet emotions. But I am okay.
2) What is going well for you?
I am in a emotionally healthy frame of mind - I am so grateful for this. Because I am working through some hard stuff .
3) What is not going well for you?
I feel so very alone. It is my fault, too because people are reaching out yet I am isolating.
4) Do you celebrate Christmas? If so, how? If not, how do you celebrate your favourite holiday?
I do :) Christmas is my favorite holiday! But this year it was not a very celebratory day. Spent it with my family, basically just one person and she is 84. So I was grateful she is there and I was not alone. But it was so different from the way I wanted to celebrate it and was sad and upsetting to have to face all the ways in which everything is different now because of her age and all the things she no longer can do.
Side Note:
I have been self - harm free for quite a few years now. I never thought it possible when I was actively self harming. But now that I am self harm free, I thought somehow all the urges would disappear forever...because it had been. But like I stated before, I am dealing with some hard stuff now ( but in good healthy mind frame) - and self harm urges came up. I DID NOT SELF HARM. yay me. But it is so disheartening that after so long, the damn urge can come right back. But hey, at least i know that urges can and will be there AND i do not have to act on them and everything will be okay <3 ...thank you for listening to me ramble. LOL!
Hello @blissedNblessed
I'm glad you are doing okay. I'm glad you are in a healthy frame of mind <3 Good luck with everything you are working through. Don't forget that 7 Cups is here to support you if you need us :D I have also been struggling with self-isolation. I have been ignoring my texts and snaps for the past couple of days :/ I'm going to try and break out of this cycle today. I am sure you can do it too :D I am proud of you for pushing through the urges! I have also been self-harm-free for a while now and also feel urges occasionally. Trust me, you are not alone in this. I know that we can get through it though!
Thank you for checking in, stay safe!
@SnailPurple
1) How are you feeling?
I am feeling ok..ish
2) What is going well for you?
that I have been sh free for 8 days now
3) What is not going well for you?
that my brain is a bully 😀
4) Do you celebrate Christmas? If so, how? If not, how do you celebrate your favourite holiday?
i celebrate Christmas by being with family and friends
Hello @emotionalTalker2260
I'm glad you are doing alright. Congrats on being eight days clean! That is a huge achievement and I am so proud of you <3 I know how it feels to have a bully for a brain. Please remember that the mean things your brain says to you are not true. You are beautiful, kind, smart, and worthy of being alive <3 Were you able to celebrate Christmas by being with your family and friends this year?
Thank you for checking in, stay safe!
@SnailPurple
awww 🥺 thank you 💕 and yes I was able to celebrate Christmas with some friends and family, some of my family is in quarantine still, they weren’t able to come 😮
1)how are u feeling?
that’s a hard question cause i don’t really know the answer
it’s all a little confusing haha
2)what is going well for u?
im enjoying reading “girl in pieces”
3)what is not going well for u?
i relapsed and i feel pretty guilty about it
4)do you celebrate christmas? if so, how? if not, how do you celebrate your favorite holiday?
i do… i celebrate with my family but it wasn’t that good this year since it’s a toxic household i think 🙂 so yeah it’s been pretty overwhelming
ps i don’t know if i’m allowed to post here
im pretty new here
so if that’s not allowed i’m really sorry
Hello @danni123456
It is okay if you are not entirely sure what you are feeling. I know what that is like :) I'm glad you are enjoying your book! What is it about? Relapses are difficult but are a part of the road to recovery. Please remember that you are still capable of overcoming this. I fell back into the habit for a couple of months after being clean for several months. It feels discouraging, but it isn't the end. I know you have the ability to get back on track :D By the way, you are totally allowed to be here! Relapses are a part of recovery. As long as you do not encourage anyone to relapse or break any of the other rules, you are more than welcome to be a part of this community <3
Thank you for checking in, stay safe!
thank you:)
uhm the book’s about a girl who struggles with life and doesn’t use the healthiest coping mechanisms to cope i guess
if anyone wants to read it check the tws
I know I already posted but it was this check in days ago when i did - so i am just going to post today here....i need to because i am really struggling.
1) How are you feeling?
Horrible. My emotions are all over the place. I am angry that my life is so damaged because of damaged people. I am angry that i have to be around toxic relentless family members that harm me, emotionally - still today. I am scared because I have a serious medical condition that I might not survive, quite literally. I feel trapped with emotional flashbacks. I am depressed and every damn day it just gets so much worse.
2) What is going well for you?
Started new therapy.
3) What is not going well for you?
Everything I wrote under how I am feeling.
Side note: I have worked SO damn hard to be self harm free. I have been for YEARS. I do not even know how many years because i do not count - i decided to take self harm off the options list. BUT - with everything thats been going on I am besides myself and I did self harm this morning. I am scared that since I did it once I am going to continue to do it because it worked - i felt better - everything was okay, finally - for that moment and a lil bit afterwards. i am worried im going to go right back to it as a daily coping skill.
Hello @blissedNblessed
It sounds like you are not in a good place right now. You mentioned being around toxic family members. Do you feel safe? It can be scary to have a serious medical condition, and the added family stress certainly isn't ideal. I don't blame you for feeling this way. While I may not have been in a situation like yours, I still know that feeling of hopelessness and fear. I'm really proud of you for coming here to share all this. You deserve to be loved and supported, and being this honest can be really difficult. You are strong for being here <3 It sounds like you are determined to not fall back on old habits despite everything going on. While it may be difficult, I know you can get clean again :D I'll leave some resources for you that might help you get back on the road to recovery. You mentioned that you started a new therapy. That is awesome! I hope you and your therapist "click". How would you feel about discussing all this with the new therapist at your next session?
Thank you for checking in, stay safe!
@SnailPurple
Thank you for checking in with me and making sure im okay.
I think I sounded damn near hysterical in that post ( i just re-read it). I am okay.
I just have a Lot going on right now and especially doing this trauma work that i am doing with my therapist - just brings out so much emotions.
I was really in this emotional overwhelm while writing that. I am safe. I am not nearly as off center as the post.
Thank you for the resources !!! Self Harm and mindfulness sounds great!
I have not self harmed since that one slip up - i am not going back to that.
And yes :) my therapist and I click quite well! I feel very blessed! Its just very triggering work i have to do - but it will be so worth it.
