advice please?
Hey guys, just broke a 12 day free streak, before that I was at 32 days. I have noticed a pattern that happens the majority of the time though not always.
I am a introvert so I lose energy when being around others, when my battery gets over drained with to much people and I get home I go to different bad habits, to try and destress and catch up mentally. Those habits mess with my mind in some way, either I want to feel regret for them and don't or something or I just want to feel something, and they push me towards SH.
So I wanted to know if y'all have good habits or advice for things I can do when my mind is numb from to much people? Any advise welcome, thank you for taking the time to read. Stay safe guys. 🩵
@7Bear7
damn! good on you for having a 12 day streak! but don’t be too harsh on yourself for breaking it🫶 have you considered maybe picking up some hobbies like maybe reading/crocheting? basically things that can keep your hands occupied when your alone
@huiyun
and maybe like journaling or things like that when your social battery is drained
@huiyun
Thank you very much huiyun. I used to crochet years ago but never got very good at it, I might try and do some again. I also have quite a few books I want to read but never actually pick them up to do it, so I'll try and maybe make a habit of reading a page or half a page every night. Thank you for your advice, take care and be safe! 🩵
Hey, thanks for sharing ur experience, actually it happens with me, I just feel suffocated when I'm with ppl for too long it's like if they rub their emotions into me which is overwhelming, usually I just stay away from ppl for a day or two and go for walks, etc until I calm down, cuz before I used to relapse into SH and then totally ghost them which is unfair.
@wittyBeing438
Thank you for sharing, walks down seem to help a little bit. I struggle to avoid people especially this month with a wedding in my immediate family and VBS , just so much people. I had a ruff day yesterday but had a great friend help me though it.
Thank you for replying, sorry I responded late just been super busy and distracted. Have a blessed day/night 🩵
Also thanks for replaying to my thread yesterday it was really sweet reading ur supportive message♥️♥️
@wittyBeing438
You are very welcome, thank you for sharing with me to, it's nice to see your not alone, so thank you 🩵
Hoping you've gone on to day 18 now<3
I completely understand the using it to feel something your social battery will recharge that regret stays with you for awhile. Its never worth it. Pick up some hobbies, read, watch something. I struggled to feel anything when I got to the mood. Even doing things I loved doing. Do anything you can to distract yourself. And if the thoughts of self harm come up just remember they are NOT an option. I would use broken glass so I removed all glass items from my room. Even picture frames I used clips and twine to hang my photos instead just so there wasn't any temptation. Do anything you can to make a safe environment for yourself! And remember..it gets easier as cheesy as that sounds. I'm almost 3 years clean now there's definitely still hard times but I also remember not being able to make it a couple days. And knowing how far I've come helps keep it going. Remember that everyday you don't, even if you think about it, is a day you've won. Eventually your 32 day streak will become a 320 day streak before you know it. Take it one day at a time, breath, and focus on being best you you can be today.
@LowlyLobster
Thank you for replying, I have a lot of things that could distract me but when I get in that mindset it's hard to think. It's also very difficult to make a safe environment, as I am a history and costume buff with multiple unique weapons in my room, as well as being a Texan with like probably 17 knives in my room and one always on me. Even if I could get rid of everything in my room (which would nearly be impossible) it would only take 5 seconds of a minute to get something else. Sorry that was a long and downing rant, I apologize.
I do really appreciate your support and advice, I have already used some of it. Also congrats on 3 years! Thank you again, and have a blessed day/night 🩵