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User Profile: PattersonGuy
PattersonGuy September 10th

I've been stressing out on a lot of things lately. I don't know how to start doing things ever since my girlfriend broke up with me. I accomplished a lot when I was with her, I became a president of our club, I'm in my last year of college. But to be honest I became a little too busy, and she didn't feel like she was getting the attention she deserves. We had a long distance relationship. She prefered texting I prefered calling. I tried to match her relationship preferences but I guess I couldn't. Eventually when I couldn't reply as fast, she gave me the ultimatum. To be fair, I haven't been able to talk that much. I was busy with all this new responsibility. But she said that even if I was busy, that I'd find the time. I guess that makes me feel guilty.

So lately I haven't been able to study and work as much as I used to. I don't feel the passion anymore. I feel dumber. I feel more tired, less interested. I'm so tired, it's late at night here and I still have a lot to do. I feel like I'm getting back to the point when it all feels useless, to the time in my life where I was at my lowest. I thought I was at my highest until recently. I have so many people that depend on me. So much expectations. I still think about the timing, why did she have to leave me when I'm in the middle of all this stress? But I don't know if I can blame her. I don't know what to do now. I'm stressed out, I'm tired, and I procrastinate constantly, but at the same time, it feels so hard to start doing something, even if I've done it hundreds of times before.

I'm the eldest in our group. In all my groups actually, the friends I used to have are grown adults now. I'm a bit delayed. I don't even think I can call anyone my close friend with how much they just ask me for advice. I once did try talking about my problems with this one friend of mine. I thought she was a good friend, she gave me advice before but when I opened up now she gave me the most AI response. Textbook reply. I didn't know how to feel so I just shut up. I don't know if I should be mad, I don't want to I guess I just expected a different response, something more genuine. But then again, I am the older one.

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User Profile: AsherTree
AsherTree September 10th

@PattersonGuy

I'm sorry to hear your girlfriend walked out on you at time when it didn't feel right.. Whatever her reasoning she made a significant error and now you can find someone who can truly commit to you. She does not define you Patterson,  ok?! Please live your life on your own terms.. Choose to be strong and proud.🌲

User Profile: Camille32022
Camille32022 September 10th

@PattersonGuy,

This is sounds like such a tricky situation to navigate. I'm hearing lots of feelings of being stressed, tired, and overwhelmed. It can be so disheartening when you thought things were going well but then suddenly everything comes crashing down. 

I want you to know that it is okay to be stressed, and it is okay if you fall behind. My favorite mantra is "Keep Moving Forward" from The Robinsons. No matter what life decides to throw at you, it is okay to pause, reflect, and process. But no matter what, keep moving forward. The most important step you can take is the next one. It doesn't matter the distance between each step. Take as much or as little time as you need, and be kind to yourself during this difficult time. I believe in you, and thank you so much for taking the time to share. Take care of yourself!!