i'm so scared for my next year of high school :(

@starryliqhts

Trust me, you are human, and we all feel like that.

I'm sure you are not cringey or boring.

You are going through alot of change and it takes time.

What worked for me with studying was breaking into daily, small, manageable chunks, to get it done, feel confident and not feeling overwhelmed by leaving it all to the last minute.

Your friends will have similar feelings.

Don't be too hard on yourself.

I wish you genuinely all the best going back 💜💕

@starryliqhts You are not alone! Everyone feels a little out of place or weird in highschool or at some point. Everyone feels a little afraid when comes to new beginnings. And i can tell you that almost everyone in my class left things for last minute too.

You could try to make a to do list before each morning of the things you need to do that day, and cross them when you have done them. Or what @Amanda84 said, is also really good advice when it comes to schoolwork.

Soon you will notice this year has passed, and that the things that used to worry you are not longer there. Or so do i wish that for you 💗

@starryliqhts

Hi!

In addition to all the other good suggestions, can you find out if any of your friends will be taking the same courses as you (they don’t have to be in the exact same class).

If you can get together with at least one friend, you can support each other and keep each other motivated. You can do this in person at each other's homes or even on the phone. 

Let us know how it goes!

@starryliqhts OMG I think I'm exactly like you...

I'm about to start my second year of junior high school... This is my third transfer, and constantly making new friends is exhausting.

I also often procrastinate, often putting off studying when I should be, opting instead to play games or scroll through the internet.

My grades are usually average, even though many of my family's children are excellent. I'm nervous and hopeful I can get into a good school, but I just like to procrastinate and slack off.

I think I'm just a lazy person. I want to change, but I don't know how...

We are all the same, I can understand you.🫶

Hey @starryliqhts ❤️

Firstly, thank you for being so open and sharing all this; it takes courage to write out what you're going through. You're definitely not alone in this, so many people struggle with procrastination, motivation and anxiety even if they don't talk about it. It doesn't mean that you're lazy or boring, it just means you're human and figuring things out. 

It sounds to me that despite having a rough year with your grades last year, you care about them and that really does show you want to grow. In my experience, a lot of times, motivation has come after starting, not before. Perhaps it can be helpful to start thinking of ways to just start -- whether thats taking regular breaks, or setting a small goal to complete. Tiny wins and celebrations can be really helpful and build momentum. 

As for the social side, it's completely understandable and normal to feel worried about making friends. People usually appreciate kindness over perfect conversation skills. You don't need to be 'on' all the time, just listening and asking simple questions like 'how was your day' can be enough to start up conversations and build rapport with others. The right people will see you ❤️

I wish you all the best with your new school year, you've got this! Please remember, if you ever need to talk, the 7 Cups community is here for you!