Advice

@Landanchandler

Hi, I am sorry that I can't give you advice and I really don't know much about Mepth. I wanted to let you know your question. Has not been ignored. I can only offer to do some research that might be helpful and post the info. I hope that you are able to get the answers you are seeking.❤️

Thank you for your reply. I don't have any personal experience myself. I'm just trying to understand what is going on in my kid's mom's head. There are other factors to consider as well. Like mental health wise.

I know meth, unfortunatley , so also wanted to reach out.,.

Nothing means more to me than family. I don’t have kids but my brother whom is 7yrs younger is everything and more, especially ‘technically being my half brother’ which I never speak of as blood is not everything and infact is why we are so close. I am a god mother too and to think I let down all whom I hold dearest and lost all that I am…. All that I stand for…. This is meth.

An evil that consumes your whole being, like no other and traps you within confines you can not escape and the harder you try the harder it is to know freedom is around the corner.

I wish no such understanding upon another and to understand is impossible…

trust the person before as this is the reminder needed to reflect any light

Thank you for response. I unfortunately have been on the other side of it for most of my life. I watched it kill my uncle. Send my aunt to prison twice. Destroy their kids lives. The oldest is going down the same road as them. I watched it destroy my sister. I've never touched it because of those experiences. So I know some things about it. But this is my kids mom. They know and love her. They asked me for her. I'd do anything to give them their mom back. I wish I could pick up the phone and text her. Let her speak to and see the kids. But at the same time I know any sympathy or empathy I feel for her she will take advantage of it. I'm currently trying to get the 2 of us in front of a therapist. Right now it's the only option I see and really a last ditch effort to try and get her to understand what needs to happen so she can be apart of the kids lives. If it doesn't work then at least I can say I tried when the kids are older. I'm also in the process of terminating her rights to the kids. I have no other choice really. I just pray that there is a chance to get through to her.

Hi. I am a mother who is currently in the grips of active addiction. My son was taken from me by his father after I was in an abusive relationship. I have barely been allowed to see my son for 4 years. when I have been allowed to see him, I had to jump through so many hoops and the whole visit was controlled by someone else. It's like I wasn't even allowed to visit with my son because his father or my mother just wanted to talk to me the whole time telling me that I'm a screw up or how to live my life. I know the way society looks at people who use drugs. When was the last time you looked at this woman as something other than the substances she's on? How easy or difficult have you made it for her to see the children? If she has to beg or jump through hoops then I'd say your children will not get to know their mother. she will stop using whenever she is ready to not when everyone else tells her to. Maybe try asking if she wants to come to lunch with you and the kids. I know that it's not necessarily your job to go out of your way to make things like that happen, but sometimes it feels like getting to see my son is impossible. If repairing the relationship is your primary goal, she will be resistant to it but if the children are your reason behind it just don't try and make it any more difficult than it has to be.

@Landanchandler I was never on meth specifically but it's quite simple really, why someone would abuse hard narcotics. It feels amazing. You're depressed as *** and nothing but suicide on your mind? Narcotics can take all that pain away. Loneliness was the biggest factor for me.