Abandoned
Hi,
This is a heavy one but something I haven’t been able to talk to anyone about. I lost my sister, then brother and son weeks apart the straw that finally broke the camel’s back I lost my soul support of 25 years. Even after all that I could handle it if I had unconditional love but even my daughter has backed off. She has never shown empathy and admitted all her boyfriends said she was cold. I just get super sad sometimes which she calls spiralling down which she has no patience for. She’s told me to get a life and so much more. She was sick a lot growing up and I showed her so much empathy my own mother never gave me it’s almost worse than her passing because she’s there but I can’t reach her. My mother never developed an ounce of empathy and I’ve seen that in others. I understand it’s hard to be around sad people, she used to say nice something supportive which was enough but now she just gets angry and unkind. The hardest part is I have to accept she will never understand and it will always hurt me so deeply. How am I supposed to frame that to be okay I don’t think telling myself she will come around is a good idea because I don’t think it’s realistic. Sorry such a long post I have been suffering and needed to get that out. Maybe too heavy a topic I will be more careful next time, thank you <3
Im sorry for all of your major losses truly i am. I am facing my own as we speak, just in a much different way. I cannot imagine someone suffering that magnitude of loss in their life. It is tragic, you are strong and you are definitely worth much more than you feel like right now. I deeply sorry that your daughter is treating you that way, but im sure that she is dealing with the same trauma that you are. Im not sure about the dynamics of your relationship with her but it seems rocky at best. I wish it were different for you truly. People here do listen but most everyone atleast according to my experience are seeking help as well. Id like to help you in anyway that i can so if you need to talk...im here. Take care friend.
Hi Malamapono
I lost my Dad and brother so I can imagine what you’re going through.I was told to reach out to people who care and I ended up being ignored and according to one of them “Just get over it” My mom’s brother told her “You’re not the first and won’t be the lady to loose a husband” so I can imagine what you’re going through, because I can imagine what my mom went through. I’m sorry for your loose and i am new here too just like you.I hope we find genuine and really kindhearted people here who will be more than just visual friends but people who will turn our family.Sending you lots of love and hugs❤️🌹✨🕊️🕊️
I’m really sorry for what your experiencing! My situation is very similar but it’s the other way around. Lost both my grandmothers this year. I seek for empathy through my mother, I’m 30 now still seeking for it and it will never happen. People are stuck in their ways! You/me we gotta find our people, they are out there. God bless , you are not alone.
@generousApricot746
Not having support of our own mother affects every part of our lives it’s so painful. I am so sorry you have to go through that too. Thank you for your message it helps to know we are not alone.
Brightest blessings <3
@Malamapono
Thank you for sharing something so personal and deeply painful. I can only imagine how heavy all of this must feel for you, especially going through so much loss in such a short time. It’s understandable that your heart would be longing for empathy and connection, particularly from someone so close to you. Relationships can be complicated, and it can hurt even more when the support we hope for isn’t there in the way we need it. I’m not here to tell you what to do or how to feel just to acknowledge that what you’ve been carrying is a lot, and your feelings are valid. I hope you’re able to find moments of comfort, whether through people, places, or even small daily things that help you breathe a little easier. You matter, and your story matters.
I'm listening.... I'm here I understand everything that your saying... Unfortunately we can not control how others see the world and how they act... I'm also to very emotional and empathetic and feel the same way but I also think sometimes I'm too emotional for everyone.. just know you are heard and loved and always here if u need to talk