If only I would have left early enough nothing would have happened. If only I would have told him. If only the bus would have come on time. If only I knew they would accept me I could calm down now. If only there would be someone I know.

Nothing is more draining to me than worrying or thinking about the same thing over and over again. It simply does not help us. What sadly happens though is that we get caught up in a mental loop which intensifies our feelings of worry and regret more and more and over time will cause sleep problems and difficulties to manage our daily tasks.

We need to get out of that mental loop and see the bigger picture again. But how?

• Remind yourself that these intrusive thoughts are just that: thoughts. If we do not cling to them they will pop like bubbles.

• Try to redirect your attention from your thoughts to something important that requires your focus or something you want to get absorbed into, like a hobby or a walk outside.

• Do a mindful exercise like meditation, yoga or tai chi. When we are more self aware it is easier to monitor symptoms and mood-shifts and take preventive steps for getting caught up in negative thoughts.

• It can also help to get the thoughts out of your head and onto a piece of paper or in a journal.

• Talk to a friend

• Focus on what you have control over:

  • Things we can’t control

  • Things we have some control over

  • Things we have complete control over

• Focus on what is meaningful in your life

  
  

How are you dealing with repeated unwanted thoughts?

Mental stress caused by excessive rumination or worries can lead to serious health problems. If you have serious, long-term problems with negative thinking and feel depressed, see your doctor or talk to a therapist if you feel they are related to any mental challenges.

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