Getting Over my Ex
I found out that he left me so he could jump out of a plane and buy a bunch of chickens lol Apparently, I never gave him the sense of freedom he wanted. He left me a week before our wedding. A wedding I paid for. I had no idea that he didn’t want to marry me. He couldn’t even break up with me in a normal way but over a two minute phone call. I said to him we could take things slow go back to just dating and he just said no and that he loved me. None of it ever made sense, when people asked me why? I never know what to say. I just became this sad story. I was honestly so sweet to him. I used to cook for him, I had so much patience for him. I was a good listener for him. He was my first boyfriend. He struggled sometimes at work. Many times I would comfort him. I think he forgot that. I wasn’t perfect though, I didn’t like driving to his house. He did most of the driving. I wasn’t big into animals like him. I wonder if he ever regrets it or if he feels relieved. I’ll always be wondering why. I would have done anything for him and now we are strangers.
@bestLime1587
I can feel the weight of what you’ve been carrying, and I just want to say I’m so sorry you had to go through that. The kind of hurt you’re describing is deep and confusing, and it’s so unfair that you were left to make sense of it all on your own. You were preparing for a life together, building a future, giving your heart and he just walked away, not only without explanation, but in the most careless way possible.
You gave him kindness, patience, love. You made space for his struggles. You offered to slow down and work through things, and he still said no. That says everything about him not you. The way he handled it wasn’t brave or honest; it was selfish. And none of it reflects your worth.
It’s okay that it still doesn’t make sense. Some endings never do. And yes, it’s possible he remembers the comfort you gave him, the meals, the laughter, the loyalty but whether he regrets it or not, please know this You were never the problem.
You were loving in a world that doesn’t always know how to receive love. You gave your heart to someone who didn’t know how to hold it. That doesn’t make you foolish it makes you strong. And you’re not just “a sad story.” You’re someone who survived a deep heartbreak and still has the courage to feel, to reflect, and to wonder. That takes more strength than most people realize.
One day, someone will see all of you and stay not because you cooked, or listened, or loved them well, but because you are enough just as you are. Until then, please be gentle with yourself. You’re not alone.
Your words really touched my heart. I really appreciate you taking the time to listen and read my story and give such a thoughtful response. I agree with you, and I am happy waiting for the future of the unknown. And I will value and cherish the person who does appreciate me and all the love I have to give. I have a lot of love to give. Also the fact your picture is a rose is very meaningful to me. In my religion, seeing a rose is a sign of good fortune. My Dad believed that as well. In times of troubles, my Dad would often see a rose or met someone named Rose and that would be a symbol of hope. It’s based on a Saint named Teresa. My Dad believed that seeing a rose would give you a blessing. I feel that you were my blessing. Thank you!
@bestLime1587
Your message truly moved me thank you for opening your heart and sharing such a beautiful part of your story. The way you speak about love, hope and the memory of your father is incredibly touching. I feel honored to be a small part of something so meaningful to you. It's beautiful how signs like the rose can carry so much comfort and strength and I’m humbled to be seen that way in your eyes. Please know that your words are just as much a blessing to me. Thank you for your kindness, your depth, and your light.
@bestLime1587
In my opinion you dodged a bullet, before you married someone who didn't deserve your love, kindness and patience. Don't underestimate yourself or what you have to offer, he needed to take accountability for his own actions and not make up some childish excuse to leave. I wish you all the best, you seem like a lovely person and please in your next relationship, don't settle 🥰💜♥️
Your words mean so much to me thank you for taking the time to read my story.
So sorry for your pain.
You are a sweet heart. And it's not your fault you are a caring person.
Time will help you get over it.
If he comes back, say NO.
Thank you so much for your kindness! You are so right and he will never come back to me it’s actually been three years of absolute silence. Never heard from him again. But it’s much better this way lol
@bestLime1587
I am so sorry for the way he that he treated you and it's understandable that you would feel the way you do. It sounds like you put a lot of effort into the relationship but he was not able to appreciate it. He also sounds like he's quite immature and it probably not ready to be in any sort of relationship.
I am angry for you that he left you to pay for the wedding while he made no effort. I feel like that was very inconsiderate of him to pull that.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I often think about if he realizes the emotional and financial struggle I faced but I don’t think he ever did grasp it but one day I’m sure he’ll realize the weight of his actions when he finds himself planning another wedding to someone else. It’s very expensive and in my culture it is on the woman’s father to pay but mine had passed so it was me and my Mom. But not every woman believes that method. In fact, it seems like a dying tradition. I would rather lose money though than waste time trying to fight him in court or something like that. He already took my past I won’t let him take my future!
@bestLime1587
I love the "He took my past"
Hey
If you need someone to talk I’m here.
I’m also going through a breakup and is been very hard on me.
Thank you so much for your kindness! It’s really appreciated!
@bestLime1587 I'm so sorry about that. As someone who struggles to maintain relationships, you seem like a wonderful woman. Some guy is going to be very lucky to have you someday :)
Your kindness made my day. I truly appreciate you reading my story. I look forward to the future of someday being appreciated for my love.
He is responsible for his own freedom
He just decided he wasn't ready for a full time commitment
It has nothing to do with you
He would have dumped anyone
Be grateful you didn't spend 20 years with him
Be grateful you now can look for someone else
Who is ready for you
@bestLime1587 i m facing a similar situation, broke up 6 months back , he passed an exam we had studied together, but i failed. Instead of supporting me or being there for me emotionally he did nothing.. we broke up.. and again i weng begging n pleading but he didn’t agree . He had his family issues so cannot focus on relationship. And i started to move on thinking i will never beg anyone n keep my selfrespect. But when his family situations got solved.. and maybe he started to think about me he came again patched up things even though i didn’t wanted it. He consistently begged and i agreed thinking things will workout. He told me he will help me to study everyway possible. But he valued his sleep and family. And never supported emotionally just like before. And i complained. He keeps saying sorry he cant do it. N when i totally wasted all time and my second attempt to write exams got closer he broke up with me.. i begged again. Because i couldn’t take up a breakup. And this exam decides my whole life. N now i m struggling everything alone. While he is having family celebrations and focusing on his career. 3 years we had been together almost. N when long distance started it seems he forgot everything about me. And he says he dont remember most if memories and just says sorry-all the time. He even had promised a forever and future several times..
I’m so sorry he’s treating you like this. He should be supporting you. I believe a good partner would lift you up when you are down. But instead he seems only invested in himself. A relationship is about working together and being a team. The fact that he broke up with you when you were about to take your second exam really shows that he is selfish. It shows his true a lot about his character. You deserve someone who is going to be your cheerleader in life. Someone who will be happy for you with all the great things in your life and will also be there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on. My ex also took three years from me but my motto is he took my past I’m not gonna let him take my future. Some people lose twenty years with someone because it feels really hard to walk away. It’s definitely scary starting over especially after investing so much of yourself and your heart into someone. But you might also be missing out on the love of your life by giving all your time and attention to someone who is not appreciating you. When you meet another person one day and YOU will you’ll appreciate them even more because you had this experience. Sending love and happiness your way!
