Is your anger really fear?

Sometimes it’s easier to allow yourself to be angry about something than to be afraid of it. But if you look deeper past your anger to find the root cause of it, it could be fear that is controlling your decisions. For instance, someone with a road rage pattern of behavior may think that they are angry at the person in front of them that they believe is keeping them from getting to where they are going on time, but the real reason for this emotion is the fear of losing their job or missing an important appointment or whatever it is that they are trying to do on time. The person in front of them didn’t do anything to make them late, but it is easier to be angry at the other person than it is to feel fear. If you can find the underlying cause for this emotion, you can make changes to your routine to take responsibility for your situation and reduce the fear driving the behavior. In this scenario, you can take control back by getting up earlier or adjusting the time you think you need to get where you are going to account for anything unexpected.