How do you respond to criticism?
He guys 😊! Today’s post is about criticism. When we receive criticism from someone, sometimes we respond badly to criticism. We may not want to hear negative comments, but we should respond positively to criticism we find constructive.
When have you responded badly to criticism?
When have you responded positively to criticism?
How did both of your responses to the criticisms impact your life?
For me, I had responded badly to criticism when I had created something for a friend. I made a shirt for my friend, but they said the pattern on it did not look suitable for that kind of shirt. I got upset about it but later apologized because my friend was only trying to help me. I responded positively to criticism when my sister criticized my writing for school. I listened to her criticism to improve my paper, and I am glad that I did. These responses impacted my life a lot because their criticism has helped me with self-improvement. Without their criticism, I would not be able to better myself.
What about you guys? I really interested in what you all have to say !
Desmynn
@Desmynn6789 Great idea for a thread
When have you responded badly to criticism? When my sister says things about me that may be true, what I hear is only my sister is dissing me.
When have you responded positively to criticism? When I was first a listener here, a mentor showed me how I could express more empathy.
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How did both of your responses to the criticisms impact your life? I had to work for a long time not to take what my sibling said as being criticism to tear me down.
Hearing that I needed to be more empathic challenged me to reexamine how I was communicating with people and has helped my communication skills improve.
Hi @soulsings, I can relate to you. My sister also criticizes me about things that are true sometimes. However, I know it is just my sister saying things to criticize me deliberately, but it wasn't to put me down. Additionally, I also sometimes take my sister's criticism to heart, and I have to work hard to make sure I do not take it personally. Additionally, I am still working on that, and I have been improving. I appreciate your participation in this discussion 💕.
Desmynn
@Desmynn6789 sibling rivalry is a challenge all families face. I really benefited by this book to help reduce me saying things that triggered responses in my sibling.
https://www.amazon.com/Mom-Loved-You-Best-Lifetime/dp/0670837563
We always get offended or feel hurt or get angry with someones opinion or saying only when we think we are right or we expect others to have good opinion on our work.
for example: if we cook food for our loved once and it came out as bland food( which is not good nor bad) , why should we expect them to say WOOOWWW, just because they like us doesnt mean thet r obligied us to say its great.
so when u think u r not right or wrong or just mere opinion or wat u did should can get both appreciation and criticism then we can respond with pragmstic way, thats what i do
@persistentSailboat3241, I like your perspective on this discussion. It’s true that we shouldn’t always expect an opinion that we want to hear just because a person is related to or has a relationship with us. Criticism that we don’t want to hear can help us learn from our faults and create an honest relationship with our friends and family. Thank you for your response to this post ❤️.
Desmynn
I responded badly to criticism when my sister criticizes something about my behavior. I'm a sensitive person, and she's very abrasive, so the criticism comes out with an aggressive/yelling tone and she uses words and insults that hurt me. I know that she is trying to communicate a flaw of mine to me, but I struggle with responding positively.
I respond to academic criticisms well, such as when a professor tells me how I can improve my paper. I also respond to criticism from my other sister well since her tone is gentler. My boyfriend is also someone else I take criticism well from since, again, it's done so in a more gentle/empathetic/sensitive way.
Does reacting differently to different types of tones mean I'm tone policing? How do I control my emotional reactions to the first type? These are things I'm still working on.
Hi @modestCherry9572, Thank you for responding to this post. It’s normal to react to different tones, as it can show our boundaries with people’s tones. For example, you said you didn’t like aggressive tones, which shows that aggressive is as far as you can go before feeling emotionally distressed. Additionally, if you would like to talk about it some more, feel free to chat with me, and we can get through this obstacle together 😊. I hope to see you in future posts!
Desmynn