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User Profile: Summershy
Summershy June 23rd, 2025

This is an update to cutting ties off with my friend.

Last Friday, I got two letters in one envelope which in which one was from my friend and the other was from her mom.  While both letters appeared to be gentle, they were upset with me for blocking my friend and for talking about her behavior on my social media page, even though I did not use my name.   It also sounds like they are mad at me for ditching her because she is going through a rough time.

Additionally, my friend said that she didn't know that she was coming across as demanding. She also said that it was because she has been dealing with anxiety and other health issues.  However, she did not seem to acknowledge that she stepped over my boundaries.  She also said that she does not know if out friendship can be restored.   She also did not seem to acknowledge that she had retaliated against me by sending private text message to her ex boyfriend.   

All the while, her mom seemed to use  common beliefs and certain philosophies to demonstrate that how I am acting.   

At the moment, I am not ready to talk to either one of them and I don't know what to think of the letters that were sent. 

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User Profile: soulsings
soulsings June 24th, 2025

@Summershy I am sorry that your relationshi[ was triggering.

If you care to reply, what did you hope to gain by posting in FB?

I more favor me resolving things like this in my own mind rather than posting about it in a public forum or spreading it to other people because I fear that others will be harmed by my comments.

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User Profile: Summershy
Summershy OP June 25th, 2025

@soulsings

Hi:

I am not sure if I would consider the relationship to be triggering.  Rather, just toxic and kind of depressing. 

In the meantime, I am a vlogger and I posted to another platform and I wanted to reach out to the audience related to toxic friendships. I was also doing a day in the life vlog while not saying her name but giving out examples. 

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User Profile: MentalMike123
MentalMike123 June 24th, 2025

I haven't read your entire story, but I'd like to help. Please reach out to me at your earliest convenience so we can talk.

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User Profile: Summershy
Summershy OP June 24th, 2025

Hi:

I posted two separate threads

User Profile: Summershy
Summershy OP June 25th, 2025

@MentalMike123

I have two other threads explaining the situation if you would like to read those.  In the meantime, I decided to end things with a close friend by blocking her because I did not know what to say.    I basically decided to end thing because we just were not on the same front page on several things.  I also started to notice several red flags during her last visit which turned me off.   


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