Therapy to infinity
After how many years and how many therapists am I allowed to say that I am the problem and that therapy doesn't work for me? I'm at a number of years and more than a few therapists and I don't think I am able to benefit from therapy of any kind. I have a feeling of what sort of answers I will get, but I am still interested to see what others' feel about it.
@obligatoryusername Hi, friend. I completely understand how exhausting it is to put in so many years and so much effort, only to continue feeling as terrible as you did before. Believe me, I’ve been there. I’ve been in and out of therapy (mostly in) for over ten years now (I’m 24), and I often wonder if there might just be something fundamentally wrong with me; if I might be inherently broken.
I just want to say as a treatment resistant depressive myself, I greatly admire your dedication and resilience. Well done. Keep going, never stop, and always remember to be kind 2 u. ⭐ ✨
Thank you 💞 In our darkest hours and while in the pits of despair, it’s so difficult to remember that we haven’t explored all of our options and that there is always hope!
@allmylovexoxo I don't have the money or the time to do all that but I'm glad it worked for you. I am done with therapy, I give up.
@obligatoryusername
What are you expecting from each encounter?
So many think therapists just have the answer, but what they have is ways for you to see paths to a new you. Maybe they have you look at situations from a different angle. Many do not like that it is a process they want a simple fix. Does not work that way it is self-reflection and accepting ourselves flaws and all.
The therapist or counselors that helped me the most........ often ticked me off the most .......who told me things I did not want to agree with. Who called me out on the BS rationalizations I held on to.
@toughTiger6481 I was expecting help in some form.
@obligatoryusername
I understand you wanted help.
In therapy I have found some just nod and listen some challenge my thoughts and outlook. Others challenged me and made me view things differently.
when I asked it was more of a reflection of if you had people agree maybe you needed to be challenged and if you were only challenged about your thoughts or feelings some patients reject that as they are not ready to take any type of critique.
@obligatoryusername Psychotherapy is not always the answer. It's effective for a wide variety of conditions, which makes it a sensible first line of attack for nearly any mental illness, but not everybody benefits from it.
@obligatoryusername therapy won't for everyone, it's true
@obligatoryusername even therapy by itself is not a solution as you will relapse later
I am done with therapy as I was told by more than one therapist I am unable to benefit from therapy and should be medicated. Yay.
I don’t have a great answer for you unfortunately but I can relate. Sometimes it feels therapy strings us along for a paycheck, our pain is their profit.
Maybe some people aren’t meant to get better, maybe life isn’t for everyone and happiness/ positivity/ getting your act together comes easier for some more than others no matter how much we try.
That’s besides the fact that therapy in all its forms is extremely secularized, individualistic and morally relative so it doesn’t fit the worldview of religious-based people like me but that’s another story maybe most don’t relate to.
Good morning everyone, this is a question very close to my heart.
I was diagnosed in 2000, the diagnoses was Bi-Polar Type II with attendant Anxiety disorder. Since then I have been constantly working with psychologists, GP's (Primary Carers) Hospital, both in-patient and Out-patient services and Counselors. Sometimes it is overwhelming and exhausting but every so often there is a ray of light that breaks through the clouds and a small piece of "understanding" adds to my knowledge, my arsenal against the "condition".
In the early days I was desperately asking the question "What's the cure for this?" and "When do I get better?"
I was told there is no cure, it's a matter of management and a lifelong task. It took me some time to come to terms with that. I also don't believe that we cannot come to a place where "It" does not control us any longer but we control "It".
I'm still searching but ever hopeful.
Reg'ds,
D.
