Trauma Support Community Check-in: Saturday , 08 November 2020

❤️ How are you today?

I've been feeling pretty lost and confused today.

❤️ What made you feel that way?

I'm slowly trying to process some stuff in healthier ways. The more I dig the more I find unhealthy patterns in my life. It's as if every time I finally figure out one unhealthy pattern and how to react healthily, another one flares up. It's been tiring to keep up with them, but I know I need to in order to really heal and move on.

❤️ Did something happen that changed your perspective of life recently? And what?

I guess. I recently started remembering something that happened to me when I was much younger, maybe about 7 years old. It completely changed the way I understood my own behaviour and the past ten years of my life. It has been both really relieving and really painful, relieving because it helped me see that a lot of the difficulties I've been having socially stem from this incident, so I can figure out how to develop healthier social skills, and painful because no child should have had to go through something like that. I guess I can now see that life is complicated, but no matter what happens, I can choose how I want to live my own life. Even if my life started out terribly, I can move on and build a life I'm proud of.

❤️ Can you tell me did someone said to you recently that had a lot of influence on you?

I'll sum up the conversation: you can't change what happened, so all you can really do is heal and move on, because holding onto this will only hurt you.

I was having difficulty accepting what had happened, so they reminded me that it was already over in the first place, and now that I'm older and no longer a small naive little girl I can protect myself. I don't have to be afraid, and I can just learn to recover from this and move on

@elizabethunter

How are you today?
Extremely happy

What made you feel that way?
I did some piano practice early in the morning. Practicing in the morning is something I always want and almost never do because of a strong resistance to do things that are good to me.

Did something happen that changed your perspective of life recently? And what?
Entering this Community. I learned new very valuable things, and got to know people I admire, that are role models to me now, each in their own way.

Did someone said something to you recently that had a lot of influence on you?
After a long 1-to-1 chat as a listener, I was told "- Marcelo..." "What ?" "- Thank you."

@elizabethunter

❤️ How are you today? (sad, angry, in love, etc.)

I'm feeling a bit sad, scared, and guilty today.

❤️ What made you feel that way?

I think one of my closest friends wants to stop being friends because they're mad at me and another friend for trying to help them get their work done. This makes me feel that I'm doing a bad job of being a friend. It makes me think I haven't helped them.

❤️ Did something happen that changed your perspective of life recently? And what?

Nope

❤️ Can you tell me did someone said to you recently that had a lot of influence on you?

I don't think so

❤️ How are you today? (sad, angry, in love, etc.)

Kinda mad kinda anxious

❤️ What made you feel that way?

I just went to my hebrew lesson and I don't like my rabbi that much

❤️ Did something happen that changed your perspective of life recently? And what?

I realized my last relationship was abusive and it made me realize im a pretty strong person cause I always try to improve my life and i've been though alot but I am alive

❤️ Can you tell me did someone said to you recently that had a lot of influnce on you?

I don't know exactly I've been talking to alot of friends about my problems and it makes me feel better when they care. So you could say that influnces me

sorry I did not answer the check in questions. Just pretty upset right now.

@elizabethunter

❤️ How are you today? (in love, etc.) I am feeling a bit ....I am feeling kind of shame of myself

❤️ What made you feel that way? I messed up posting in the Group Support room today

❤️ Did something happen that changed your perspective of life recently? And what? yes,

Pay better attention

❤️ Can you tell me did someone said to you recently that had a lot of influence on you? no

❤️ How are you today? (sad, angry, in love, etc.)

Drained

❤️ What made you feel that way?

Several changes in life, coming down with a cold

❤️ Did something happen that changed your perspective of life recently? And what?

Yeah, a friend told me something shocking about a person I knew in childhood and that person has turned out to hold hateful beliefs that I never thought they would. It was shocking for my friend when she first found out and for me as well

❤️ Can you tell me did someone said to you recently that had a lot of influence on you?

That same friend mentioned that it's never too late for people to educate themselves and change but if someone is constantly pulling you down, it's ok to take a break from them for a few years and then see if they've changed. It was one of those things where I knew because people keep saying it but had to hear it from her for it to click. I was able to remember her words today when people in my household kept trying to get a rise from me. I'm grateful she said it to me

@elizabethunter

Hiya how gos? Hope your doing pawsome today.

Inspiration can be hard to come by, ima working on my check in as well.

❤️ How are you today? (sad, angry, in love, etc.) Ima tired

❤️ What made you feel that way? Sleep was rough dissociateing sleepwalking

❤️ Did something happen that changed your perspective of life recently? And what? Perspective of life is complicated, but no not really.

❤️ Can you tell me did someone said to you recently that had a lot of influence on you? Idk, a few people are influential to me..

Hang tough stay pawsome ur friend 🔥

I hope these questions aren't too difficult, but I want you to just think and decide what to reply to. Thank you again!