Trauma Support Community Check-in: Tuesday-Wednesday 6-7 April 2021
Hello community ❤️
How are you? Today, we'll be talking about taking things step by step when we have to. As usual, the check-in is optional, and you can just tell us about how you've been ❤️
When responsibilities and challenges pile up and we can't really see an end to this nightmare, it can be difficult not to feel overwhelmed. The little voice inside you starts telling you all those awful things. Maybe it wants you to give up. Maybe it keeps coming back to the things you want to leave behind. Maybe it believes that you'll never recover. Is that voice right? Before you know it, everything seems hopeless. Impossible.
Take a deep breath. And another one. Keep going ❤️ We are worried about many things, but perhaps only a few are really that important. Right now, let's just focus on today. You will survive today. We do what we can with what we have, and that is good enough for today. It doesn't matter if you didn't finish what you wanted to finish today. It's okay if you haven't been improving. It's okay ❤️ Breathe
Today, let yourself focus on the next right thing you can do. Drink some water, take a shower, or have something to eat. You will get through this ❤️ Hang in there, today will not last forever. We are here for you ❤️
Questions:
1. How have you been? ❤️
2. What's the next right thing you can do today?
3. What is something you can do on a bad day? If you can think of a few good ones, perhaps write them down somewhere to remember them on the bad days ❤️
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@hopebeyondpain
This post is so accurate, and it couldn't come in a better moment. I feel that way. I can't see beyond the night, I can't make projects for tomorrow and I can only live this moment. Things are overwhelming and unbearable and I don't see the point in keep going. I just know that I must stay alive, I don't know why. But it's exhausting. Too much.
@Kimmkimm
If I am seeing your words correctly with my eyesight, i feel for you having such a difficutl night and time. I do feel as you do quite often, even though many do not know it. You are brave to share.
@Amelia2324
It is more than that, but I was tired to explain it. I wrote a post about that here.
https://www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/SexualAssaultSexualAbuse_1253/Onemoreday_244211/1/#2640361
@Kimmkimm
*sends more hugs for today* I hope today has been a better day for you, my friend. I'm here for you ❤️ My PMs are always open for you if you want to talk ❤️ If you can't see beyond the night, hold my hand, we will walk through the darkness together ❤️
@hopebeyondpain
Last night I had the worst flashback ever. I harmed myself unconsciously. I don't think I can go through this anymore.
@hopebeyondpain
1. How have you been? ❤️
i have been alright. struggling with my addictions but i have this week off from school so i have more time to relax a bit.
2. What's the next right thing you can do today?
clean up my living space.
3. What is something you can do on a bad day? If you can think of a few good ones, perhaps write them down somewhere to remember them on the bad days ❤️
hang out with my pets.
@cherryskiies
Hey there ❤️ It's good to hear that you're doing okay and you have time off to rest. Addictions are tough, and you are so strong for fighting through them. Keep going, my friend ❤️ The steps you take don't have to be big, as long as they take you in the right direction
Good job for spending time to think through and answer these questions ❤️ Every little bit of effort counts, and I'm proud of you for them
Thank you for checking in with us today ❤️ Take care
@hopebeyondpain, Hi! The voices about hopelessness is relatable! It takes me plenty of encouragement before doing something difficult. I like being validated. Lol.
1. How have you been? ❤️
Surprisingly relax.
2. What's the next right thing you can do today?
Okay. I will consider writing my thoughts down a right thing to do. It is pretty healthy in the mind that loves to overthink.
3. What is something you can do on a bad day? If you can think of a few good ones, perhaps write them down somewhere to remember them on the bad days ❤️
I love to spend my time with people I trust during a bad day. My alternative ways to deal with this problem are through sleeping and playing video games. Sadly, it can lead to addiction sometimes. Ahh.
Have a nice day! :)
@SnippyHam
Hey there, Snippy ❤️ It's always good to hear from you, and I'm really happy to hear that this is a topic that is close to your heart. I like being validated too, and it does help me to feel a lot more motivated to get things done :-P
Wow, I'm happy for you! It sounds like you've had a great week or two ❤️ I really relate to overthinking, and I agree that writing these thoughts down can really help me better understand what's going on in my head. Job well done!
This is such a good way to spend a day that would have been downright awful otherwise. Spending time with trusted people really helps to ground me and lift my spirits too. Haha, it seems that not all coping mechanisms are equally helpful for you. We try our best, and if our best means falling back to a less healthy measure, then so be it ❤️
Thank you for checking in with us today ❤️ Take care, and I hope you'll have a good day!
@hopebeyondpain
1. How have you been? ❤️
Iv'e been okay until a few hours ago. Frustrated with an alter.
2. What's the next right thing you can do today?
put the body to sleep
3. What is something you can do on a bad day? If you can think of a few good ones, perhaps write them down somewhere to remember them on the bad days ❤️
1). Talk to my brother so I can feel a little better (and also so we can watch movies togetherrr)
2). Listen to the music Max sent me.
3). sleep
4). eat a happy food (chips, cupcakes, the cake that Bakugou made because he still hasn't let me have a slice yet)
5). Play with Beth
By Ainsley, Little and happymaker.
@TheChaoticsystem
Hey there Ainsley ❤️ Hey there, Chaotic system ❤️
It's good to hear that you were having an okay day ❤️ Yes, these things happen. We don't always agree with everyone around us, do we? I'm proud of you for choosing to do this check in even though you probably weren't in a great mood. Every little bit of effort counts ❤️
Letting the body sleep is a great idea! Good job there, Ainsley. Wow, what a list! These all sound fun, I'm glad to see that you were able to think of so many good things to do on a bad day ❤️ The cake sounds delicious, I hope you get to have a slice soon 😋
Thank you for checking in with us today ❤️ Take care, everyone!
@TheChaoticsystem
You all came up with some great ideas. Sorry you have been fristrated with one of your alters. I know how that can be and it doesn't feel good.
@hopebeyondpain
hope i am in the right place to just check in for the day. I am sorry, but i know there were 3 questiosn, but, I just cant' seem to remember them at all. I appologize and am so sorry. I am trying.
I do belive i had a good day. I saw a specialist and was able to get there and see him. I had a real hard time and started dissociatiting when he wanted to touch me, in a doctorly way, checking me. he wasn't bad, but, what it took me too was and I wasn't able to recover quicly afterward, like they would expect from someone without my abuse and trauma. I am so sorry to them and for me not behaving like they expected me to be.
I lost some time, but, I know later, I checked on a couple of struggling friends, listened, let them know they mattered and were cared about. I then, did some things more that I had to get done today. then, as soon as I could take a break, i did my best to help a long-term friend cope and deal with lots. I am so glad that today I was able to help some friends. It is so good to help others.
I am seeming to continue failing at this one thing in particular in therapy, again and again and keep getting persented with it to me as to how to feel and solve it, in a way. I am so clueless about it totally and it does relate to my abuse hx. Somehow, i am just not seeing or thinking or feeling whatever it is that I am supposed to do right. I will keep workong more on it and am so thankful that I have a great therapist with patience. I know that I am the one who can't figure this thing out and they are doing their best to help me.
I have such a full week, this week, for an older person. I will be up all night, of course, with my insomnia as it has been the last 5 or so yrs. But, right in the early morning, I have 2 computer appts, one which lasts either 3 or is it 4 hours, the 2nd one.
Love to you all
@Amelia2324
Hey there Amelia ❤️ Yes, you've come to the right place for the check-in of the day, and don't worry about not answering the questions, you are welcome to share any thoughts you have on your mind ❤️ There is no need to aplogise, just come as you are ❤️ I am proud of you for trying
It's good to hear that you had a good day ❤️ Yes, for survivors, it's often really difficult to separate safe touch from unsafe touch. That's completely normal, and it's not something you have to apologise for. You were very very brave for going to the specialist and allowing him to touch you ❤️
I can tell you're a very kind and compassionate friend, since you were pouring your heart out to your friends who were struggling, even while you were struggling with your own personal problems. It does feel really good to help others, and I'm proud of you for doing such a good job of helping your friends who needed it ❤️
It is okay to fail many times ❤️ It's normal to get stuck during therapy. There isn't really a "right" way to heal or going through therapy, and it can take some time for you to figure out what works for you in this particular case. It's awesome to know that your therapist treats you very patiently ❤️ You are doing your best to figure this out, and that is something to be proud of. Every bit of effort counts, and we do what we can with what we have ❤️
I wish you a good week ahead, Amelia ❤️ I hope this full week will be enriching and useful for you ❤️ Take care, and love to you too ❤️
@hopebeyondpain
Thanks so much for your kind, understanding, compasionalte response to what I was able to share. Kind hugs to you.
@hopebeyondpain
1. How have you been? ❤️ eh okay i guess
2. What's the next right thing you can do today? I'm not sure
3. What is something you can do on a bad day? If you can think of a few good ones, perhaps write them down somewhere to remember them on the bad days Journal , Listen to music,
@Girlycat
Hey there ❤️ It's good to hear you had an okay day ❤️ Those are both really helpful things you can do on bad days, well done for identifying them ❤️ Every bit of thought you put into the this counts, and I'm proud of you for takinf your time to work through these questions today
Thank you for checking in with us today ❤️ Take care, and I hope you'll have a nice day ❤️
1. How have you been? ❤️
I applied for a job for a big company but they texted me saying that they are not receiving any messages right now, they really don't realize how much time it takes me to be encouraged and send out a job application, nor how much despair I get when I get rejected. I am treating my teeth, as I had to fill in a damaged molar that was about to dissolve, but the filling of the molar hurts badly. Finally, a date has been set for my college entrance exam for the Masters, but that appointment is two days later and it is difficult for me to prepare for it. It also corresponds to a picnic date I've been really looking forward to and no other chance to do it. It seems that neither fate nor God wants me to be happy or successful.
2. What's the next right thing you can do today?
I don't know.
3. What is something you can do on a bad day? If you can think of a few good ones, perhaps write them down
I don't know.
@DinaElwy
Hey there ❤️
I'm really sorry to hear about this ❤️ I can tell it took a lot of strength for you to take this step, and it really hurt when you got that response. I want you to know that I'm really proud of you for sending our that job application even though you knew you might not get anything and you'd be really affected if that happened. It clearly wasn't an easy choice, but you did it that's admirable ❤️
I'm sorry to hear about your tooth too. I hope you'll be able to rest well while the treatment is going on ❤️ The treatment hurts, but I believe that you're strong enough to get through it ❤️ All the best for your entrance exam ❤️ Things don't look great now but you'll still have a fair chance to get in! We do what we can with what we have, and it's okay if that's just not enough. To have to cancel the picnic must feel awful, but there's always a chance another opportunity will come up ❤️ Keep going, my friend, you'll get through this ❤️
It's okay to not know too, I've had plenty of those days. One thing that always surprises me is how well the coping mechanisms I've practiced work on bad days. Meditation, deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualisation, all of these are habits I've been practising to protect my emotional wellbeing, and it really does pay off to have these things to turn to when I need it. Perhaps now it's difficult for you to trust that anything will help, but this is also the best time to test out some coping mechanisms you might have heard of and wan to try ❤️
Thank you for checking in with us today ❤️ Take care!
1. How have you been? ❤️ I'm hanging in there. I need motivation to exercise more
2. What's the next right thing you can do today? Drink more water, maybe a nap
3. What is something you can do on a bad day? If you can think of a few good ones, perhaps write them down somewhere to remember them on the bad days ❤️
Enjoy candy
mediate
go for a walk
clean
@Rebekahwriter13
Hey there Rebekah ❤️
That's a great list, good job for putting in the effort to write it down ❤️ I really like the simplicity of your little steps, those are the easiest to remember when we really need it. Walking in itself is exercise too, so if you don't think you can convince yourself to do more intensive exercises, walking is a good way to just get moving ❤️
Thank you for checking in with us ❤️ Take care, and I hope you'll have a good day
@hopebeyondpain I'm a list maker. It helps me keep organized-ish
Thank you for this post. You just helped me avoid a panic attack, reminded me to take my meds, and got me to put some music. You also got me to reach out. Thank you ❤️
@adequatelyInadequate
Hey there ❤️ Aww, I'm just really glad it it managed to help ❤️ You're the one who followed through with all these steps and finished all of these tasks yourself, I'm proud of you for that. Life isn't easy, but you're capable of getting through the bad days! Take care, and I hope you'll have a gentle day ahead ❤️