Traumatic Experiences Community Check-In Monday 20 July 2020
Good morning everyone!!! In this check-in we will go over various responses to Trauma since it was suggested in a previous check-in. People experience many changes after suffering a traumatic experience. Many of whom suffer severe problems in the immediate aftermath. While some individuals feel better within three months of the traumatic event, others recover more slowly. Many of these individuals continue to experience debilitating symptoms. The initial step towards making a recovery is to become more aware of the changes the individual has undergone since the trauma. Some of the most common responses to trauma are listed below.
Anxiety and fear. Anxiety is a common and natural response to a dangerous situation. For many people it lasts long after the trauma ends. This happens when views of the world and a sense of safety have changed. One may become anxious when they remember the trauma. But sometimes anxiety may come from out of the blue. Triggers or cues that can cause anxiety may include places, times of day, certain smells or noises, or any situation that reminds an individual of the trauma. As one begins to pay more attention to the times when they feel anxious, that individual can discover the triggers for their anxiety. In this way, they may learn that some of the out-of-the-blue anxiety is really triggered by things that remind them of their trauma.
Re-experiencing the trauma. People often re-experience the traumatic event. Some people have flashbacks, or very vivid images, which can feel as if the trauma is occurring again. Night terrors are also common. These symptoms occur because a traumatic experience is so shocking and so different from everyday experiences that one cannot fit it into what they know about the world. So in order to understand what happened, their mind keeps bringing the memory back, as if to better digest it and fit it in with their experiences.
Increased vigilance is also a common response to trauma. This includes feeling on guard, jumpy, jittery, shaky, nervous, on edge, or being easily startled, and having trouble concentrating or sleeping. Continuous vigilance can lead to impatience and irritability, especially if the individual is not getting enough sleep. This reaction is due to the freeze, fight or flee response in our bodies, and is the way we protect ourselves against danger. Animals also have the freeze, fight or flee response when faced with danger. When we protect ourselves from real danger by freezing, fighting or fleeing, we need a lot more energy than usual, so our bodies pump out extra adrenaline to help us get the extra energy we need to survive.
People who have experienced a traumatic event may see the world as filled with danger, so their bodies are on constant alert, always ready to respond immediately to any attack. The problem is that increased vigilance is useful in truly dangerous situations, such as if we are in a war zone or we are being robbed. But increased vigilance becomes harmful, when it continues for a long time even in safe situations.
Avoidance is a common way of trying to manage PTSD symptoms. The most common is avoiding situations that remind an individual of the trauma, such as the place where it occurred. Often, situations that are less directly related to the trauma are also avoided, such as going out in the evening if the trauma occurred at night, or going to crowded areas such as the grocery store, shopping mall or movie theatre.
Another common avoidance tactic is to try to push away painful thoughts and feelings. This can lead to feelings of numbness or emptiness, where one may find it difficult to feel any emotions, even positive ones. Sometimes the painful thoughts or feelings may be so intense that their mind just blocks them out altogether, and they may not remember parts of the trauma.
Many people who have experienced a traumatic event feel angry. If they are not used to feeling angry, this may seem scary as well. It may be especially confusing to feel angry at those who are closest to them.
Trauma may lead to feelings of guilt and shame. Many people blame themselves for things they did or didnt do to survive. For example, some assault survivors believe that they should have fought off an assailant, and blame themselves for the attack. Others who may have survived an event in which others perished feel that they should have been the one to die, or that they should have been able to somehow prevent the other person from dying.
Grief and depression are also common reactions to trauma. This can include feeling down, sad, or hopeless. An individual who has suffered trauma may cry more often. They may lose interest in people and activities that they used to enjoy. They may stay home and isolate themselves from friends.
Self-image and views of the world often become more negative after a trauma. An individual may tell themselves, If I hadnt been so weak this wouldnt have happened to me. Many people see themselves in a more negative light in general after the trauma (I am a bad person and I deserved this).
It is also very common to see others more negatively, and to feel that they cannot trust anyone. If a person used to think about the world as a safe place, the trauma may suddenly make them think that the world is very dangerous. If they had previous bad experiences, the trauma may convince them that the world is indeed dangerous and others are not to be trusted. These negative thoughts often make people feel as though they have been changed completely by the trauma. Relationships with others can become tense, and intimacy becomes more difficult as their trust decreases.
Intimate relationships may also suffer after a traumatic experience. Many people find it difficult to feel intimate or to have sexual relationships again. This is especially true for those who have been sexually assaulted, since in addition to the lack of trust, sex itself can be a reminder of the assault.
Many people increase their use of alcohol or other substances after a trauma. Often, they do this in an attempt to self-medicate or to block out painful memories, thoughts, or feelings related to the trauma. People with PTSD may have trouble sleeping or may have nightmares, and they may use alcohol or drugs to try to improve sleep or not remember their dreams. While it may seem to help in the short term, chronic use of alcohol or drugs will slow down or even prevent ones recovery from PTSD and will cause problems of its own. Fortunately, there are treatments that can help one to recover from PTSD and experience long-term relief from symptoms without the use of alcohol or drugs.
These are just several of many reactions to trauma and it ultimately affects everyone differently, especially depending on the type of trauma experienced. Understanding the impact of trauma will help to identify what course of treatment would be best to overcome it. Before I end this check-in I will ask these three questions of you all.
1. How are you feeling today?
2. What is the most common reaction to trauma that you experience?
3. What do you do or would you like to do to counter this reaction?
As always I wish you all a greater today than yesterday, in hopes of a better and brighter tomorrow!!!
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@Understandingempath
1. How are you feeling today?
2. What is the most common reaction to trauma that you experience?
3. What do you do or would you like to do to counter this reaction?
Today was not bad. My common reaction trauma is sadness. I counter it through writing and distracting myself with games, movies, studies, volunteer, etc.
@SynSavory
Hy Syn! Distraction and writing are both awesome techniques! I'm sorry you are having to feel such sadness. I hope you continue healing! We are here for you
@BraveAdventurer
I appreciate you highlighting that I am channeling that energy into creative pursuits.
@SynSavory
Not bad makes it sound like its been an alright day. Sadness is a common response to trauma and I also take that sadness and use it as motivation for my writing, channeling that emotion into the works I write. What do you study my friend?
@Understandingempath
Ok wow Empath! You put some serious work (as always) into this post! I mean, I'm mad impressed! Thank you for all that you do for this community.
Ok. I have no one to talk to about this stuff.....so this may be a bit of a rant.
1. How are you feeling today?
Exhausted. But the shifts at work are getting longer, harder, and more stressful. All of us hospital workers are just wearing out. TBH, it's almost too much to handle.
But at the same time, oddly hopeful. I mean I feel like the world is slightly easing up. I ate at a restauarant with friends last weekend. This weekend, I managed to return to the ice! A few of my harder jumps/spins were AWOL, but I was able to just jump and spin and skate again......it was the best feeling. I got to swim at my friend's pool. I got ice cream from a cute shop a coulple blocks away. I did an awesome yoga.I finally watched Hamilton. I mean, it was just a beautiful weekend of relaxation and enjoyment.
Also, devastating loss. My mentor, friend, and confidant (one of the few people in my real life who know what I'm going through) said that my story "was too hard to handle" and basically dropped me cold. Still struggling with the response to this. I feel like I lost the one person who cared, and it's devastating to feel so alone.
But overall, I still feel hopeful, happy, and determined as I make goals for my physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, and creative growth.
2. What is the most common reaction to trauma that you experience?
Panic attacks. Disassociation. Fear responses to the most random things. Clinginesss and fear of being left alone. Also, pushing people away and isolating ( I know, you can do both). Constant hyper-vigilance (I have at least 2 escape routes in my head at any given time). And lately anger. 9 days ago, my dad punched me in the face because my car didn't have enough wax on it. The bruise was embarrassing and painful. But I realize how little my life meant in comparison to a block of metal. My dad was mad because I hadn't waxed a car.....but he had no regard for my own body. IDK. Realizations likes this cause anger. When the anger and pain get to much, I usually self harm or struggle with dangerous thoughts. But I am 29 days free of Self Harm today! And I"m so proud.
3. What do you do or would you like to do to counter this reaction?
Anxiety and panic....riding it out and grounding. Disassociation.....focusing on the small details. Anger and/or panic...acknowledge it. I pretend I am a lawyer and ask it questions. Why do you feel this way? What prompted these feelings? Dig deeper. By analytically examining it, you can learn from it and often dull the response. Hyper vigilance makes me feel safe......so idk. i want to keep that one. As far as the fact that I'm either super clingy or super wary or that I struggle to get close to people.....idk. I need to ask my therapist on that one.
@BraveAdventurer
Your dad punched you in the face because you didn't wax the car??? I'm glad you to hear you are working and maybe you can be out of that situation soon. You didn't deserve that. I'm also sorry to hear of your friend dropping you because your story is too hard to handle. But at at least you have your therapist to talk to and I'm happy for that. Despite all the things that you are going through I hear a lot of positive enthusiasm in your voice and I'm glad. And you share it with others too which makes you extra special!! I hope the rest of your week is more peaceful and I'll be thinking of you!!!
@InfinityandBeyond23
Awww. Thanks! This response means so much! Thank you! I'm rooting for you too! We will get through this. You are such a strong survivor!
And I do live on my own. I just have to go home once a month. It's complicated on so many levesl. Slowly gaining independence thoug, and it's beautiful.
I'm rooting for you to as you embark on this next stage in your journey!
@BraveAdventurer
Well thank goodness that you don't have to live with the man!!! As many miles as you can put between him and you sounds like the best strategy. Thank you for your kind words and support. You're right of course - we got this! Listen when I get done with this program that I'm in and playing like a virtuoso I'll make sure I play your favorite song that you like to skate to and post it for you. In all seriousness I hope I'm out of this program before I ever get to be that good.!!! I have to appreciate my doctors for trying to help me though. I'm glad you have your therapist as well who seems genuinely concerned about your well-being. I hope you keep up your enthusiasm and positive outlook. I'm also happy that you have an outlet like your skating to turn to, I hope to read more posts from you telling us how great life is for you and how much fun you are having! Have an amazing rest of the week!!
@BraveAdventurer
Congrats on being self harm free for 29 days. I know how hard that is. You should definitely be proud of yourself. Take care
@BraveAdventurer
Firstly I want to thank you for everything you do at work. I can't imagine the level of stress that entails. I must say you are very optimistic lately and I really love hearing that. Swimming and skating on the ice. Sounds wonderful! I still haven't seen Hamilton but I did have some ice cream earlier. Sorry to hear you lost a mentor, and I do hope you find a suitable replacement for them. 29 days free from self harm is very commendable and I am very happy you are able to say that. I love the pretending you're a lawyer deal. Thats interesting and something I haven't thought about before. Thank you so much for all you do in the forum. I do hope you have a wonderful rest of your evening!
@Understandingempath
1. How are you feeling today?
I'm feeling good 🙃
2. What is the most common reaction to trauma that you experience?
Avoidance , hiding behind my shield 🛡
3. What do you do or would you like to do to counter this reaction?
Yoga , meditation repeat
refresh - Mindfulness
yoga , meditation repeat
@Worrior22Warrior
You truly are a Warrior! You have amazing tools and seem so brave. Keep fighting.
@Worrior22Warrior
I'm glad to hear you are feeling good today! Thats awesome my friend. I hide behind my shield too, but as of late I'm noticing that shield doesn't need to be there as it keeps the good parts of me from spreading out into the world. Yoga, meditation and mindfulness are also my big three when it comes to coping strategies. I do hope you have a wonderful rest of your day. Thank you so much for participating in the check-in!
Hi everyone!
Thank you Understandingempath for this important post. Very informative ![]()
1. How are you feeling today?
I am feeling pretty good today. Have been more energetic than usual and have cleaned, cooked, done laundry, the dishes which is more than enough many days. I'm in a good mood, feeling happy, smiling as I write this.
2. What is the most common reaction to trauma that you experience?
My most common reaction to trauma was anxiety, avoiding things and shutting my emotions off, but I have to be honest I have experienced most of the things you wrote about. I put a check in almost every box.
3. What do you do or would you like to do to counter this reaction?
Nowadays I'm very aware of my triggers and what to do to counter them. What has helped me the most is my therapy and after being through that I can put my hands on my chest to calm down. Take deep breaths and do some self talk and I'm fine most of the time. If that doesn't help I do mindfulness or go out for a walk.
I wish you all have a good day, and if not, as good as it can be at least. Take care <3
@spectacularSunrise7824
I'm glad you're having a good day today. Sounds like you have been really productive overall. Happiness should be attainable for all despite our struggles. Anxiety truly goes hand in hand with traumatic experiences. Its great to know breathing exercises and mindfulness helps you to cope with that. Everyday is a wonderful day for me no matter how rough things may seem I try to stay positive. Thank you so much for participating in this check-in and may you have a wonderful rest of your day my friend!