Traumatic Experiences Community Daily CheckIn - Thursday 27th April 2017
Good Morning All! How are y'all doing today? How are you all finding this weeks activites within the Trauma SubCommunity this week? We hope your having some fun. Join us today for our fun words and pictures quiz with @DeborahUK and @agreeableKite4304 and tomorrow for our Karaoke activity and please take a look in the forum thread under Trauma Sub Community Launch week for further details of how to take part. The sun is shining where I am, how about where you are?
This space is yours, to let us know whats happening in your world, how your day has been, is it a good day, bad day or inbetween? Healing from Trauma is hard work, there are ups, there are downs, there are tears, and there successes and achievements. It can be tough going but always know, we are here for you :) Always reach out if you can for some support for your deserve that :)
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UPDATE!!!!
Updating this post in the hope some of our members may be up for having some fun and a laugh. This message is a beg!!! <3 We are having a karaoke event tomorrow to celebrate the launch of the trauma sub community and despite posts going out, we have yet to really receive any songs from anyone other than some listeners on the trauma team who decided to overcome their fears and worries in the hope all of you may join in the fun tomorrow. We were really hoping some of you may be up for the channge. If your up for the challenge would you be willing to record a song and then send the link to KristenHR so she can then post in forums tomorrow without compromising confidentiality outside cups? and also to spread the word to others to see if you can get them to do the same? SingSnap has free songs to record if your up for it. Will send you the forum link that details tomorrows activity
www.7cups.com/forum/TraumaticExperiencesCommunity_60/TraumaSubCommunityLaunchweek_1248/Friday28thApril2017_67405/
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Hi. Second day on this forum. Life is really hard right now. Hard to talk irl to family who are grieving too and would not understand my guilt.
Going today to crematorium to collect ashes that we are going to keep in the shawl they gave us from the hospital, and in the room which was going to be theirs. Eventually will scatter them in the Thames where we scattered my grandparents just last December.
Everyone has told us to go away for a break so we are. I dont know how we pick our lives up or how i go back to work in the hospital where it happened.
I wake up wishing this life was not mine and that i had died when they did. Im holding on for family and husband and all the kind people here who hold me up.
@inventiveOrange1
So sorry for your loss(es). Have you found someone good to talk to if you feel the need to?
@hereigoagain
Hi. Not irl really though therapist who i was seeing before this ivf cycle wants to try emdr if flashbacks continue.
Just too difficult to speak to family about the guilt and bad thoughts as they would just worry based on things that happened in the past.
I talk in a room on here and to a couple of very kind listeners. Without the kindness of people on here I would not have got through and they continue to keep me going.
@inventiveOrange1
The internet can be great for talking about difficult issues and I'm glad to hear you've found support on here. I hope you'll be able to heal eventually 
@inventiveOrange1 Reach out whenever you need Orange, there are some great people here reaching out to others. I too am sorry for your loss it must be really tough for you. EMDR is a therapy that is often used with people who have PTSD and is useful for flashbacks and triggers. There is often a period of stablisation which precedes EMDR techniques taking place and this period is to help you learn ways to manage triggers and flashbacks, eg breathing exercises and grounding techniques and learning to stay within a window of tolerance with emotions, not getting too overwhelmed and not shutting down either. It can be useful for some people. How do you feel about this as a possibility?
Just getting going for the day so not much to say about that. I'm awake. I'd rather still be in bed. :/ I work full time - 8 hours a day and 3 hours of commuting. I'm so thankful to have a job but it's very hard to keep going through so much of this. I really, really just want to not participate in life. I can feel myself sinking and I'm panicking a bit to stop this down swing.
Last night was crappy and had to deal with an eating disorder trigger, but got through it with the help of a friend. I went to sleep as early as possible in hopes that today would be easier. Lack of sleep definitely makes everything else harder to cope with.
I just want to say thanks for always being here and for giving a crap when so many other people don't. What a gift!
@KatieMoon1 Always try and reach out Katie if you can when things feel rough. I know its a bit of a cliche to say things can get better but with hard work, determination to fight on etc it can honestly get to a better place for you. I am glad you have a supportive friend with whom you felt able to turn to for support. We are here for you :)
@dancingRainbow45
Thank you. I am getting things done, one step at a time and I do realize that reaching out is better than running away from the feelings - just trying to find my courage to do that. It's an every day effort.
Good things happened today because I encouraged mr partner to be truthful with his family. I'm so relieved. I need to learn from that bravery.
I'm not doing so great. I'm kinda down. I'm really negative right now. I can't get anything done. I'm worried I won't get my homework all completed on time. I'm really struggling right now.
Hi
today I'm feeling pretty eughhh.
i wish i had the word to express what I actually felt. I feel a heaviness in my body, an ache in my chest. I feel alone and a little bit lost. Like I'd like to make a snuggly nest in bed and not get out. Unfortunately I have to be a grown up !
@dancingRainbow45
...Ah, so it's not just me...
Seriously, nearly every single thing that could possibly go wrong, from the big and important ones to the ridiculous ones, goes wrong these days. I keep trying to do stuff to make things better and life is like "lol nope".
Grumpy cat is GRUMPY 
@hereigoagain Am sorry to hear today is one of those days for you Hereigo. I know it can be frustrating and disheartening when you do try and do things to make changes happen and to feel better, and sometimes those changes work and some days they just dont, no matter how hard you try. Life is a bit like that for everyone I think sometimes. It can be hard when we have those days but what I find useful sometimes is to actually make a note somewhere when there are more positive things happening in life, and then on those really awful day get that list out and think, okay today sux but its one day amongst others where its been better :)
Stressful last few days, got lots of work to get done, and its 10pm and I haven't really finished any of it... Also done 2 brave things this week, got myself an STI test (a year later I admit, but better late than never aye?) having a panic attack waiting for any results, but trying not to think about it. Also got in contact with a nutritionalist which I need but i have been too scared to contact before today.. Trying not to freak out, this week has been way too proactive for me LOL.
