Traumatic Experiences Community Daily-Check In: Tuesday, 9th of October
hey hey my lovely trauma community
the first two days of this week are already done! and for anyone who had a bad start of the week: dont wait until next week. you can with this message, take a deep breath, and start again.
i thought that for today, this should be your little relaxing zone where you can just have a few moments to breathe and to regenerate.
so....lets all sit together and enjoy our little moments of peace. take a little sip of your favorite drink, a bite of your favorite food and take some rest.
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Calming Exercise: Follow the paintbrush with your eyes while not moving your head.
What helps you to calm down on a day full of chaos?
Are there any calming exercises you know and enjoy? feel free to share with us!
and like always, feel free to just hop in and say hi and tell us whatever you want to share. this is your place of support.
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@Hope3729. thank you for the tag. I'm finding it hard to get anything done. Just seem to be stuck in this spiral of trauma memories and depression. The PHP wasn't what I needed so I quit. My therapist is gone for 3 weeks and I feel very alone. 7 cups is my only form of support right now. No matter what distractions or grounding stuff I use, memories come back every day. I'm wondering why I'm still here. I'm tired of putting on the mask for those times I have to be strong for my kids. I'm so exhausted by all of this.
@affectionateNorth4018
Hey North, sorry to hear your therapist is gone for three weeks, but I'm very glad you are checking in on cups to have a bit of support during that time.... as for the memories, yepp, you said it with quite fitting words, it's a spiral, and it's hard to get out of it.... just try to always keep in mind that those are 'only' memories, they can't hurt you anymore, they only have that much power over you you are allowing them to have... Be strong and try to do sth nice for yourself... sending you lots of strength and some hugs, if you want them 
constantly sharing seems to be my main joy in life these days; i share my food, my income, my time, my education, my skills, my supports, and most of all, my Caring~! these all take me out of myself and the stress just falls away.
@GustyOne4U
Hey Gusty... wow, that's a lot of sharing you are doing there, that's amazing as long as it brings you joy and you don't forget yourself over all you do for others 
and love that picture, thanks for sharing that with us...
@GustyOne4U love this thanks for sharing hon. hope youre having a lovely day!
@Hope3729 Hej Hope, Good to see you Dear.
@Raveninthelabrynth oh my god RAVEN! big massive huge hugs!!!!! so so happy to see you today how are you darling?
@Hope3729 M doing alryt hon, you?
an I kno m awesome an alle, but hon m no God lol 
@Raveninthelabrynth hehe im doing good thanks for asking. have been missing talking to you hon!
@Hope3729 had 2 weeks off, turned it into a month an a half. Chillin, an being Daft in love
Putting this here because I have no idea where else to put this. What on earth is happening with open chat. There has been no sharing of information that they were running, apparently they were. There is no proper listeners around to facilitate conversations. Its just silent because theres noone helping in there. This is a total shambles, WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE!? :O I am basically there with 7 other people with noone replying. Open chat was my lifeline, it gave me space to talk about some really hard stuff and now... nothing. No saftey no support nothing. I know people are bored of these posts but we wouldn't be making them if stuff was being done. If our core team wasn't thrown away to NOT BE REPLACED. What is happening. I just want to feel safe for once. sorry.
Sidenote: Thankyou everyone running daily checkins I am really appreciating it. Just... missing chat.
@Lilibuth12 Hej Hon sorry I been gone a bit.
I would rather not discuss any severe changes hon, alle changes from time to time.
I took a month+ off for myself. First break I have had here in over a year.
Aniwae now m bak we are sorting things out and I hope we can bring back consistant and regularly scheduled discussions and groups.
Just getting bak into it hon give us a few an alle will sort out proper.
I Missed seeing you about hon, no worries we're sorting it now an will have something soon.
@Raveninthelabrynth
Sorry that your first day back I'm whining!! I've been trying my best just was a bit of a shock today!! Guess I really just wanted a chat and I missed therapist last week so all kinda exploded ahah.
Anyway thanks in glad that you are back and it's lovely to see you!!!! I hope you feel way more rested now :3 :3 and have had a nice break :)
@Lilibuth12 Thanks Love I had an awesome time. Spent it being Madd Daft In Love, not a moment wasted.
You can pm me anityme ye need or wish hon. Mo not bak on aní schedue here atm an m not looking forward to 18 hour days either. But I am here and as always I do check my messages a few times a day and respond as swift as I can.
Hugs hon, taking a moment off from therapy may seem at times like being abandoned but it's not. Take it as a chance to hold yer own a bit an see what ye got without reliance on others. Just to see, then ye can truly know what ye need an can handle an get it proper.
@Raveninthelabrynth
Thanks hun :) Mad in love sounds awesome!!! I am glad you had fun and got to relax :). 18hr days don't sound good o.0 make sure you don't over do it :O.
I'm sorry selfish me sometimes forgets everyone here are volunteers helping out <3 I don't want to selfishly ask for things that will hurt others <3. Burn out is bad :P :)
@Lilibuth12 Not at alle hon. We ALLE have our days myself included.
We ALLE came here for OURSELVES FIRST! Iss Lifa, this is how it must be even for staff.
I have been working trauma for decades, it's what I do and what helps me stayb grounded and moving forward.
We get to a point in our recovery where it is to us to reach down and help our brothers and sisters get further up the cliff safely so to speak.
I have mani folks above me pulling mi up, an mani below as well.
We get through it alle together hon. I have bad daes too just as alle do. We keep our chins up an our eyes on our ultimate goals best we can, and accept leaning on our friends and others when we need them.
No single answer hon, we're alle getting bi one step at a tyme.
@Lilibuth12 Hey! We are working on getting open chat back. It is certainly not as quick of a process as we would like. One of our Safety Coordinators @Heather225 and I did one last Thrusday but was coordinated at the last minute and not announced. Because it is vital that we have enough mod coverage in open chat, this slow progress but I will keep you updated.
@Kate
It's okay, I think I just exploded a bit. I was surprised cause I was so excited when I saw trauma chat was up and then it kinda failed and it made me freak out a bit. Sorry you've dealt with more drama me on here than I think most people have IRL. *Sighs*.
I know you are setting things up and things are getting better :) Seeing my therapist tomorroe, hopefully that will help.
@Lilibuth12 No need to apologize for how you're feeling! It's 100% valid.
@Lilibuth12
It was good seeing you in open chat, Lil.
Sorry about my going mute after a while. I am working on that, it' been a goal of mine.
Be well!
@emotionalMaple9419
That's absolutely fine maple! It was lovely speaking to you and seeing you on chat! I was not upset with anyone on the chat, I was more upset about the lack of mods and listeners :) I disappear sometimes too. I often went feeling quiet and just wanting to be included. :)
I did also as I have said above, kinda freak out! Ahaha I sorry if I made you feel you should have done something!
@Lilibuth12
I am so glad to know we are here for each other and I do understand.
You are not alone!
@emotionalMaple9419 Just saying Hej an sending safe hugs Em :)
@Raveninthelabrynth
Hi!
Awwww thanks for the hugs, Raven
And safe hugs back :)
@emotionalMaple9419 
Hi.
Just trying to breath today.
@practicalIdeal2007 and thats totally okay hon take as many deep breaths as you like to. we re all here for you.
I liked the breathing exercise. I needed it. Today was stressful. I dont know if it was in a good or bad way? Probably good, but out of my comfort zone.
@Npepsicola im glad to hear that these exercises could help you after your stressful day i hope that youre feeling better hon and wish you a lovely rest of the week.
What helps you to calm down on a day full of chaos?
Writing and music
I like baths too
@Rebekahwriter13 writing and music both sound like an awesome way to cope with stressful days! and yay for baths awesome darling, thanks for sharing these with us today. hope youre having a lovely rest of the week.
Hello
I don't know what to hold onto
@humorousBeing8966 hey darling,i understand that sometimes things get difficult and we dont know what to hold on to.... but we are here for you anytime you need us and would love to support you hope youre having a good rest of the week.
@Hope3729
I'm sorry I'm not participating anymore...I don't know why it's at a new bottom
@humorousBeing8966
hey Being :) that just happens, our recovery is a permanent up and down, not a straight line.... and you just participate whenever you feel like, you're always welcome
Hi everyone, just checking in after a lengthy absence. I have missed being here and hope that I can once again feel like I can take part in the discussions here. Step by step. Little by little.
@TeenyTinyAppy hey hon its lovely to see you here and we re so glad to have you back! we definitely have missed you too and would love to have you taking part in our discussions anytime. wishing you a lovely rest of the week.
@Hope3729
Thank you for the sweet welcome back. :) I hope the rest of your end of week is good as well.
@TeenyTinyAppy Hej Teeny Welcome Back
I just got back from a month off myself
@Raveninthelabrynth
Hey Raven, it is great to see you. :) I was wondering if you were still around and am glad that you are. Since you are the one who caused me to want to give this site a try, it just wouldn't have felt like home without you. I hope things are going well for you.
@TeenyTinyAppy Ja sorry hon, I was gone for a while, but I am here and I really do care. I'm verry happy to see you here again.
An thanks for the kind words, I really needed them.
Oh, an ja m doing alryt, hope you ar too