Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Friday 26th October
Hey Trauma Community.
So Last Friday was jam packed full of information, to take in a lighter topic this Friday, we are going to do some Self Reflection & Energy on the topic, you can re read that Check-In HERE
Can Also re read the Self Care Check-in HERE
This should help with , jogging your memory on what we Discussed.However before we go into the Self Reflection topic, i wish to add this video it goes really well with the topics, ive discussed already and may also be why you might not feel you can do any tasks such as Self love or Self care. Here is the video first. HERE
Questions to answer from the video
Does this video make any sense to you?
Which Theory describes you best Fork theory or Spoon Theory?
Does knowing this theory mean you could try to Self love/Self Care more?If
If the answer above is yes what would be the first small thing to do to self-love / self care more?
Do you find this video helpful?
Self Reflection
Self Reflection then previous topic was Self Love but, before that we did Self care now it's been a week or so since, we did them topics lets do some reflection questions.
Questions on Self Reflection
Have you thought about anymore about the topics Self Love/Self Care?
Anything you didn't say on the topics you wish to say now?
While Self Reflecting have these past topics been helpful ?
Is there any topics you want me to focus more on?
Would you like me to stay focused on these topics?
It is up to you if you choose to partake in this topic, we can also just do a regular check in too.
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@CaringBrit
Does this video make any sense to you?
Yes, it makes sense
Which Theory describes you best Fork theory or Spoon Theory?
A little of both maybe? I have chronic health issues that limit what I can physically accomplish each day. Of course I'm constantly trying to borrow from tomorrow, which ends up creating a health disaster. Then there is the fork theory. I know I should shower daily, but many times I don't have it in me to do it. I find myself frustrated with my inability to function and I end up spending energy I don't have on doing nothing but being frustrated.
Does knowing this theory mean you could try to Self love/Self Care more?
I try
If the answer above is yes what would be the first small thing to do to self-love / self care more?
Maybe write more. I'm not really sure.
I ran out of spoons or forks hours ago. I'm struggling these last couple of days. Trying to find some reason why.
@practicalIdeal2007 aww all we can do sometimes is try to self care or love more and i complwtly understand having the no energy to shower sometimes
what about the reflection questions posted above theirs 2 sets some video based some self reflection
@CaringBrit
I'm not sure how to answer the reflection questions. I'm not good at self love or self care. I don't feel well today, and I know I should be resting. Instead I'll be at work for at least 12 hrs.
@practicalIdeal2007 aww thats ok deal and aww not feeling well hope you feel better asap
where do you work
@CaringBrit hi
@crimsonLime6525 gey lime how are you
@CaringBrit just trying my best to get through each day
@crimsonLime6525 aww want to go hide in the fort today lime
@CaringBrit not even sure if the pillow fort will help today
@crimsonLime6525 would you like a hug lime or we can chill to music a movie maybe or have some snacks
@CaringBrit a hug would be nice then maybe chill, trying not to hide as know it
@crimsonLime6525 hugs
@CaringBrit thank you for the hug, been a kinda tough day. Got some news at work today which has left me very unsettled
Just a hi
@Npepsicola Hey. Nice to see you here.
@Kate
Thank you
@Npepsicola hey how are you
@CaringBrit
Hi. Thats a hard question to answer. Parts are good and parts are bad. I self harmed earlier, i just feel like i am broken and defective. I feel like my brain is messed up and i cant get it right. Im trying in therapy but its scarey opening doors that have been closed for so long. Some of them i dont even know what is behind them.
@Npepsicola are you currently feeling safe right now as you mentioned self harmed earlier and i understand it can be scary opening them doors for sure
@CaringBrit
Yeah I am safe.
@Npepsicola good to hear your safe
@CaringBrit
Does this video make any sense to you?
this video makes a lot of sense.
Which Theory describes you best Fork theory or Spoon Theory?
the fork theory
Does knowing this theory mean you could try to Self love/Self Care more?
yes i could try more self care. thought while the video about how im going on an empty tank which is probably why im so tired everyday. im doing more than I can. I push myself too hard.
If the answer above is yes what would be the first small thing to do to self-love / self care more?
take time to take care of myself do something i love or go to places i love.
Do you find this video helpful?
i did find the video helpful. It sadly reminded me of my bio mom she has MS. when i was younger she always wouldnt do big things to save energy. When we went to a park or she would swim with me or play with me. she would need tons of energy for that and sometimes we would have to stop because she would get tired. i wasnt really careful or noticed till now from this video.
so for a check in right now about how i feel; i feel pretty bad about the thing with my mom. ive been so hard on her. i just feel bad. and ive been thinking like lately more and more what if my mom dies and i didnt get to have a relationship with her. that kinda upsets me because you only have one woman who gave birth to you. yes my mom wasnt truly there for a long time and i didnt really have her as a mom and she hurts me pretty bad. i do have open wounds internally from her. i cant blame her she is mentally ill too. i think im going to call her. i want to talk to her and say im sorry. I have been pretty depressed recently but im trying to feel okay. i built a self care box yesterday. i plan to read all of my books by the middle of next month which is like 16 books. but i love reading. i havent been as suicidal but yes i have been suicidal. i havent been eating as much. i know its bad but i dont want to. yesterday i did binge a little but then weighed myself and took laxatives. i had a panic attack last night. my heart was pounding i broke off a relationship with a guy friend it was muniplulative so i broke it off. i didnt dfeserve it. actually im writing a book right now too. i hope it turns out well.
@Hope7879 glad to hear the video both made sense to you and helpful sorry it brought a bad memory up however great job on self reflection though in realizing you may have been too tough on your mum
Love the self care options what sorts of things you enjoy most , thats true you only have one birth mum for sure and im proud of you
ooo 16 books thats alot what books you planning to read the titles , awesome on the self care box what you put in yours
@CaringBrit
i put a book, a journal, twenty one pilots album, list of good netflix shows and markers.
i am going to finish girl in pieces, the hate you give, nobodys boy, milk and honey, the 5 people you meet in heaven, wintergirls( half way through it),,my sisters keeper, scars,its kind of a funny story, finding audrey, one for the murpheys ( read it when i was 10), turtles all the way down, the perks of being a wallflower, all the things we never knew, looking for alaska, heartbeat, in a heartbeat
@Hope7879 awesome book titles what genres you usually read and great self care choices too
@CaringBrit
realistic fiction and mental health books most times
@Hope7879 Nice
@Hope7879 Those are some great books! I just finished wintergirls the other weekend. It's really great but also potentially triggering and pretty intense.
@CaringBrit
Questions to answer from the video
Does this video make any sense to you?
- I have heard of the spoon theory. Fork theory is different though.
Which Theory describes you best Fork theory or Spoon Theory?
-I feel like i have struggles with both honestly. I have old injouries and other health things that make my spoons a not great situation. I have trauma and mental health issues that make my forks a struggle too.
Does knowing this theory mean you could try to Self love/Self Care more?
Yes, self care for me is focusing on what my needs are making an effort to meet them with expending less energy and time or taking the time i need to relax if i am too tired to be the way i need to be.
If the answer above is yes what would be the first small thing to do to self-love / self care more?
Do you find this video helpful?
Self Reflection
Self Reflection then previous topic was Self Love but, before that we did Self care now it's been a week or so since, we did them topics lets do some reflection questions.
Questions on Self Reflection
on self reflection i am big into it i think it helps me break through a lot but i also never know when that time is and what will trigger it.
@RiverTamer102409 ty for your response to the questions great answer to the self care one for sure its aboutmeeting our needs and definetly restingwhen its needed
@CaringBrit
sorry I haven't been super active in check-ins recently as I haven't had a lot of time to be on here
@incompl aww thats ok how have you been
@CaringBrit
I've been ok thanks.
Just dealing with a really messy break up :(
@incompl aww no break ups arent easy no matter how they end or how messy