Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in: Friday April 5th
Hey Trauma Family,
Our next day of ACT series today Day 15
Day 15: Change Your Behaviour.Goal: To change your behaviour to be in line with your values.
Values involve response-ability; that is, acknowledging that you always have the ability to respond. The response you can always engage in is valuing. Keep in mind that no one always lives according to his/her values. When you feel guilt or shame at your limitations, it is time to get unstuck from that thought by looking at the thought rather than from it. You can also use your acceptance skills to acknowledge the pain that comes in those moments. Then, you can choose to reconnect with your chosen directions so that you can once again begin moving in the direction you choose to move. Values are always perfect; its our behavior that needs work.
Change your behaviour exercise:
1.Focus on values as your compass to guide your behaviours
2. Keep the focus on things you have control over (avoid pulling in requirements and expectations for other people, places, and things as these are out of our control)
3.Be flexible, mindful, and accepting when implementing behaviour change since willingness and adaptability are more important than a desire for success
It is important to tie this knowledge about changing behaviour with the ideal direction of your behaviour change, which is towards your values. This means you will not listen to your thoughts and feelings when they begin pulling you towards the same ineffective ways of responding to situations and issues in life. Instead, you will remember what your values are and examine whether your current ways of thinking, behaving, and responding are in line with these values.
Bonus Activity:
Share your thoughts below to better understand this concept.
Next week will be our last part of the ACT series if you wish to find them all they are in my previous check-Ins or i could create a post call them ACT and link them in a thread so you can all find them if you wish for me to do this let me know but ill do this after ive done all 16
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I miss you trauma fam Daisy, Kite, Deb, Rain, Raven, Rozie and each one of the trauma members that was involved with this family.
YOU ARE F MISSED
@sensitiveShade5337 heyy there shade
Hey all!
I've been naughty and hiding out
@emotionalMaple9419 aww thats not naughty come on in as you wish too maple
Hello.
Had been doing quite a bit better the last several weeks. Not feeling as well the last couple days though. Lots of flashbacks and body memories. Its tough sometimes.
She told me I deserved to die. Over and over again I think. That hurt. Really badly Im guessing. I mean, now I know its not true intellectually but all the stuff from the past starts to come back and it get really confusing and I start feeling like maybe I do deserve death again. Confused. Hurting. Sorry.
@pioneeringBanana1598 no need to feel sorry you havent done wrong she did im sorry you were put through that pioneering hugs if youd like one
