Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in: Monday, August 12 2019
Hello everyone and happy Monday!
How did everyone do over the weekend? I took my doggies to the dog beach and got sun burn of a life time. I fell asleep cuddling one of my senior doggy. 
I noticed my mood throughout past month or so and as much as I don't want to admit it, I am just overall happier/present when I am keeping myself busy. I am unable to move forward from my pain when I am idled at home. But oddly enough my mind has the audacity to tell me that I am NOT facing my pain and fear head on because I keep avoiding to think about it. I frequently feel like I was suppose to idle myself to give myself a closure from the pain and fear.
Trauma is what hurts me on daily basis. It keeps me awake at night and brings my mood back down everytime.
Question is, how much is enough closure? Can we move forward from our past trauma without closure? Is it better for us to take our time in grieving what we have gone through or is it better to keep ourselves busy for the time being?
Hope this check-in gives you an opportunity to evaluate just how much closure we actually need and want for ourselves.
Have a good day everyone.
" Sometimes we don't want to heal because the pain is the last link to what we've lost." JM Storm.
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@Jackie Hi it took me 30 years but I was finally able to find a therapist who was able to help me.I think that I will never be as if nothing ever happened,but things are much better. I never would have believed that it was possible.
@adventurousBranch3786
The most important part is that we are standing still and taking babysteps forward. I am glad you found a therpist who is able to bring you to a better place. Thank you for checking in. Have a good day
Hi I saw a post somewhere that there are going to be changes with the moderated groups. Does anyone know if there will still be a trauma group on Friday's?
Unfortunately, in a lot of cases, traditional "closure" simply isn't possible. That is why it's so important to have therapy, so you can educate yourself and have an internal closure, rather than an external closure!
@betterchoices
My mom use to tell me that the ONLY complete control a person has is ALWAYS just themselves. I believe that now, so much that I say it too often. There is no meaning behind waiting for someone to close that door for you. We mind as well just close it ourselves that way we know for sure it's closed. 
My ex died over two years ago and Im still working on closure.
I am trying to move on, but depression can pull me down
@Rebekahwriter13
hello, that's really tough. I am sorry for your loss. Grieving has to be one of the most hardest event to get over. My father past when I was just 10 years old and I think about him very often. Especially raising my daughter, I think of him and talk about him often. It's okay to take your time. It's your speed and no one else. Hope you're having a decent day Rebekah. Thank you for checking in.
@Jackie thank you. I hope you are doing well too.
I'm recovering from a depression incident.