Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Saturday 15th of September, 2018
Happy Saturday everyone, I hope you are having a good weekend so far! 
*offering safe hugs*
How are you feeling today? Is there something you would like to share? :)
I do not know about you but this week has turned out to be pretty busy for me so I am really glad that it is weekend and now I have a bit more time for myself and to take care of myself and for the things I like to do.
FInding some times for yourself and self-care is often overooked but it is just so important. Of course it can be hard sometimes but it is important to never forget that you are important and you do deserve a break and just to be taken care of!
What kind of self-care activites do you like the best? - you can pick one from the above picture or just share your own amazing ways of taking good care of yourself :)
Do you have something planned for this weekend in terms of self-care?
Anything counts and of course these are just some questions that you may answer but also feel free to share anything on your mind you would like to, I would be glad to listen and just as I started it last week to get to know all of you better. :)
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@redmark - Today I slept in and am cuddling with my cats and blanket. It has been a weird week both for past traumas, recent crisises, and the hurricane threat. This weekend i am going to hang out with a friend and watch movies...
Hey there @wontwakewontsleep *hugs* - only if you are okay with virtual hugs, of course
It is so awesome to meet you around here!
I am sorry to hear that you have had such a weird week. I can imagine it had to be really long and tiring with all those things to deal with and prepare for but I am glad to hear that at least today you were able to catch up a bit with sleep and just sleep in with your cat. :)
Also, meeting up with that friend of yours sounds really nice. Do you have any movies planned yet or you will just go with whatever? :)
Anyhow, I hope you will have a nice weekend!
Stay awesome!
@redmark - nice to meet you too and thanks for your kind words (:
@wontwakewontsleep Enjoy your self-care time with friends. Hoping you are safe from the hurricane and feeling better from the long and difficult week.
@Kate - thanks
@redmark
Hi Red. It's good to see you.
Hey there @practicalIdeal2007 *hugs* (if you are okay with it)
It is really nice to see you around here as well!
I hope you are feeling a bit better and remember that you are not alone here and that there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of in reaching out for help and on your road to recovery and getting better :)
Stay strong and awesome!
@redmark
I'm trying to be okay today. It's not going so well.
@practicalIdeal2007 Oh....how come? - or, I mean, do you want to talk about it? ... no pressure, but if you ever feel like it, I would be glad to listen here :)
@redmark
Still failing, at everything. Currenlty curled up under my weighted blanket with my teddy bear (that if anyone asks I don't have) trying not to start crying again.
@practicalIdeal2007 Aww, I am really sorry to hear that it sounds like you are having a real hard time dealing with all those things. I mean, I want you to know that you are never alone here and I believe in that together we can get through this! :)
Also, it is okay to cry if you ever feel like it and I am glad to hear that you have got your teddy bear with you there. :)
Stay strong and awesome!
Feeling lost and little. Week was so freaking awful and I just want to lay on the couch and not exist. Today is my granddaughters 1st birthday party and I can't go. Too many people and my daughter doesn't understand and I'm just a burden and disappointment to everyone now.
Hey there @affectionateNorth4018 *hugs* - only if you are okay with virtual hugs, of course
I am really glad to see you around here!
Aww...it really sounds like you have had a long week and you have a lot on your mind. You know, you are not a burden or a disappointment tho. You are here, still fighting and reaching out for help, being strong and brave and I mean, how awesome is that? :)
Of course, I can imagine it has to be hard when you are trying to give the best to your daughter but I can tell that you do really care about her and deeply love her and, I think, that makes you a really awesome parent as well! :)
If there is anything we may be able to help you with we are always here for you, so feel free to reach out to us anytime or just hang out here with us for a little bit, you are always welcome here! :)
Stay strong and awesome!
@redmark
Thanks for saying those things. But I wasn't a good mother and I'm not a good grandmother either. Would really rather not exist at this point.
@affectionateNorth4018 Oh....you know, you may be right, I do not know you BUT, really, all I have seen was a mother and grandmother who truly cares about her daughter and grand-daughter. I mean, I know this is hard, all that you have been through and all that you are dealing with currently but you do still care about them so much and fore me this actually shows that you are a good mother. From what I have got to know about you from this short time anyways :)
So far this weekend my boyfriend and I have spent most of it in bed :) it's been nice to just snuggle and reconnect, with alot of sleeping in-between :) feeling super relaxed right now :D think I am going to play some video games and make sure I don't go to bed too late tonight :)
Hey thete @Lilibuth12 *hugs* - if you are okay with virtual hugs
It is always so nice to see you around here! :)
I am really glad to hear that you are having such a nice weekend and I can imagine that just being with your boyfriend and reconnecting with him like that has to feel really awesome! :)
Also, I hope you will find some good video games to play and you will be able to have a good night's sleep this night as it really sounds like a nice paln! ^-^
Stay awesome!
@Lilibuth12 Relaxing with your boyfriend sounds nice! I am about to do the same and play video games with him! Great Saturday self-care activity.
@redmark Thank you for the check-in! Take time for self-care and relaxation this weekend!
Hey there @Kate *hugs* (if you are okay with it)
It is always really nice to see you around here!
I am really glad that I have got to know all these awesome people here and I am happy to help. I will try my best for self-care as well as I am dealing with a quite annoying cold currently, but nothing too bad tho :)
Stay awesome!
Just a hi
Hey there @crimsonLime6525 *hugs* - only if you are okay with virtual hugs, of course
It is really nice to see you around here, I am glad that I have got to meet you!
I hope you are having a nice weekend so far and I do hope that I will get to know you better later on but there is no pressure, of course :)
Stay awesome!
How are you feeling today? I feel frustrated and very misunderstood, even more misunderstood than I had before.
Is there something you would like to share?
I've been looking for friends who understand me, but with my health issues, emotional issues, and my outlook at things, I know it can be difficult. However in the last 36 hours, I keep running into religious people who keep preaching at me. I have my own spirituality but I not need people pushing Jesus or the bible in my face.
I just want friends who understand that I can change moods quickly, and I mean nothing by it. (I have so many triggers for my emotional issues.) Someone to talk about, cooking, writing/reading, cats, movies/tv, paranormal, music, blogs, or astrology.
I do not want someone with kids, because most of the conversation ends up about them ranting over "jr." Or that they can't sleep because of "jr" or they eventually stop talking altogether because they focus in their kids as most parents should do. (I've had this happen so many times. When I ask them to talk about adult things, I lose them faster.)
Hey there @Rebekahwriter13 *hugs* - if you are okay with virtual hugs
It is always really nice to see you around here!
I am sorry to hear that you are feeling like that, I can imagine it has to be hard when you are getting misunderstood again and again.
You know, I do really admire your strength an bravery for still going out there and trying to open up for people and find friends. I mean, I know that it is not easy and I am sorry that you were not able to really find much success with it. For some people the Bible or whatever religion they follow can bring some relief and help them so probably they are really just trying to help you - of couse I can understand it can get annoying with time tho.
I do hope you will be able to find someone like you are looking forward. I mean, those are pretty interesting topics and I guess I would like to have someone to talk about those - of course I know having someone on the otherside of a screen and having someone by you is totally different and honestly I am pretty bad with this whole socialising thing as well.
I do not know many people with kids but I guess they are just proud of their children which is somewhat understandable but it still sounds frustrating that the conversations can turn one sided like that with them as you do not have much space to talk about what you would like to.
I mean, I am not the best with finding friends either, so I am not sure what kind of tips should I give but I can always offer an ear - or an eye, I guess - here if you ever feel like you would like to talk :)
What kind of music do you like?
Stay strong and awesome!
@redmark thank you for your long response. Yesterday was a stressful day as the person who preached on my blog was like the 5th person to lecture and preach to me within 36 hours. (I had prayed and asked God for friends, but not preachy people.)
Music wise. . . My personal play list has everything from Motown to alternative to pop and rock, I was into Hanson, but currently I'm into Imagine Dragons.
I even have a spiritual, worship playlist as music helps more than prayer or reading the bible.
As for kids, between my emotional and health problems I'm just afraid I would chase them away. Parents also sleep at night in which I'm a night person.
I'm sure, I'll find friend in real life someday. Meanwhile i need to get my physical and mental health issues fixed.
Yes I appreciate hugs, real and virtual. ***HUGS****
Hi Red
I'm struggling. Everything is a mess inside my head. I've been isolating myself this week and I know I shouldn't. I am scared to talk to people, I am scared that I will be brushed off, yelled at, invalidated. There is an advert in the UK for the nspcc (child abuse charity) and it makes me feel so sad. I look back now and so much stuff was not right and I wish so much that I had talked to them maybe it would have been different. I know I can't change the past but it's hard to not think about it.
At the moment my self care is snuggling under my duvet with my teddy, watching tv.
Love and hugs
Hey there @FloweringBunny *hugs* - if you are okay with it
We are really glad to have you around here! :)
I am sorry to hear that you are struggling like that. I can imagine how hard it can be to see that advert again and again an not being able to really share it with anyone. You know tho, you have shared it here with us and I think it is an awesome first step and I want you to know that we do care about you and your feelings are always valid.
It is always a really hard thing to look back at the past and see what you could have been doing differently and even though I know it as well you should not do that I do it as well sometimes but you know I think there is no problem with that - as long as you are not obsessed with it. I want you to know that what you have been through is not your fault, not at all. It is the fault of those who put you into a situation where you would have needed such help. Do not be so hard on yourself, now you are here, reaching out for help, no matter how hard it may be and I do really admire your bravery and strength for that and I do believe that we can get through this and I do believe in you! :)
Snuggling with your teddy bear under a duvet sounds like awesome self-care for me! :)
I usually do that as well while watching DIsney/Pixar/Dreamworks movies when I just want a break from things :P
Stay strong and awesome!
Today was a bit better for me. I didnt sleep great but i didnt have a headache today so that was a bit of a relief. I had to work in the heat but after i took a shower and a nap, then the wife and i went to dinner. I realized i havent really eaten the past couple days, so i think that helped. And now just watching football. I hope everyone here is doing okay.
@Npepsicola
Glad today was better for you. I'm sorry you've been having headaches. My counselor says eating is very important. It fuels our body. Maybe you can remember that to? 😊 You deserve to eat and feel better! It sounds like you and your wife had a nice time at dinner. I hope the rest of the weekend goes nice for you. I have been alright. Thank you for saying you hope our weekend is also good 😊
@KLM3278
Thanks klm :)
@Npepsicola
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Hey there @Npepsicola *hugs* - only if you are okay with virtual hugs, of course
It is really nice to see you around here! :)
I am really glad to hear that you have had a better day today. I can imagine that not having that headache had to be a relief after all those days and I am glad to hear that you were able to get a good nap as well to catch up on sleep :)
Also, going out for a dinner with your wife sounds pretty nice and I am glad to hear that you have got to eat now and that it has helped you. I do hope you will have a nice rest of your weekend. :)
Stay awesome!
@redmark
Yeah the headaches have been really draining. Im thankful for a day without one. Overall yesterday was a decent day. Im thankful for that too.
