Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in: Saturday, 17th of August, 2019
Happy Saturday to every-amazing-one! I am really looking forward hearing from you. 
How are you feeling today? :)
How has this week been for you? Do you have anything you would like to share about it? :)
My two weeks off from work is coming to an end. I mean, I suppose the main thing about having these times off from work is that I just enjoy being alone a little bit, because while I am working I have to use crowded public transpost and just sit in an office with many other people for like a whole day.
Not that I do have a problem with people in general but it certainly can be draining and just anxious to spend so much time with so many people without really having a choice in it.
I have learned that little things can really go long ways when it comes to situations like this. One of the main things that helps me, I suppose, is just having my headphones with some music. Also, at work I do have some like personal stuff, one of them is a small red panda plushie just standing by my monitor.
It is still not the easiest thing at certain days but I have figured that if you have to spend a whole lot of time around other people why not try to make it easier on you and you may even find some people who share interests with you or just generally nice once you give it a try. I mean, the latter was unexpected for me but really welcome actually. :)
Do you have anything like that helps you around people? Do you have any positive social experiences lately? :)
Of course, as always, there is absolutely no pressure on you to answer any of the above questions. If you would just like to say hi or sit with us for a while you are always welcome as well! :)
Also, we have a whole lot of safe hugs and materials - and the willingness - to build pillow forts if anyone needs it ^-^
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Hi, today i'm not feeling really good. Lots of anxiety and anger. My father is here and it is really hard for me to stay calm around him today.
As for spending time around other people, i feel a lot more comfortable about that than i did even just months ago. If i start to feel anxious around people i just do some breathing exercises or look at positive quotes on my phone. It helps me a lot.
Hey there @No715 *offering safe hugs*
It is really nice to have you here with us!
I am really sorry to hear that you are having such a tough day. I do hope that you will be abe to spend some time without your father around to just recharge. Or maybe just go for a walk - go down to the shop that you have "forget about" or anything like that :)
Oh, I actually like that idea. I do have some sites as well that I can read up a bit when I need a bit of a boost and help with anxiety I cannot really always get to them tho, but, I do think it can be really helpful as well as just some breathing exercises. :)
Stay strong and awesome!
This might not be quite what you meant, but I'm pretty paranoid in public. I always think somebody's out to get me, and since I live in a big city, the stats are higher for most crimes. I bought myself some mace (it's disguised as a lipstick; it's actually quite cute) and ever since then, if I feel nervous or shifty in public, I can just rest my hand on my mace (beside my pocket knife inside my purse) and I actually feel significantly better. I so hope I never have to use it, but at least I have the security of knowing that if someone comes up to me suddenly, I can squirt em with pepper spray. It helps me feel calmer, and more confident, so then I walk that way, too. I don't look behind me every 5 seconds, and I can relax (a little, I don't put my guard down!), so I stand taller and step smoother-- that in itself has shown to dissuade attackers!
Hey there @betterchoices *offering safe hugs*
It is always really nice to hear from you around here!
I want to hear from you and whatever might help for you and if it is that, I am glad to listen :)
Also, I think it makes complete sense. I think martial arts are a similar thing as well. You are thought to be able to protect yourself and give that sort of confidence but not to really use. I do think that confidence is key as well. I know that it can be really hard sometimes to just stay calm and if you have found something that helps you it is awesome. :)
I mean, honestly, I am working in the capital city but living like 1.5 hours away just because I was not able to stand the crowd and just all those things going on in the city so I have decided that I would rather travel each day to work - I mean, I can still read and do a bunch of stuff on the train - than to live there. So, anyway, in a way you are already so much stronger than I am and I can understand where all those feelings are coming from.
Stay strong and awesome!
@redmark I get scared using public transportation, so I'd say we're about square! Haha
@redmark
Hi awesome!
Today feels as a very difficult day for me. I am feeling really sad and lonely. And there is some shame too as I have just poured myself a glass of wine. Very bad idea when urges are sitting with you.
My great therapist here is on holiday now and will be back in a month. I have been granted an interim therapist, but... it feels like betraying him in a way. And I feel such a looser. And many many many other thoughts I simply cannot write down right now.
Take care and be awesome
Hey there @admaiorasemper *offering safe hugs*
It is always really nice to have you here with us!
I am sorry to hear that you are having such a tough day and also tough week.
I can totally understand that it has to be hard to just have an interim therapist. I mean, for me it takes usually a month or more to just get comfortable with a therapist so just having one for a month as an interim....sounds kind of strange.
On the other hand tho, your great therapist has wnet out of his way to make sure that you do have someone to talk to in the meantime and I do think that it is exactly what he would like you to do, to take care of yourself and make sure that you have someone to talk to and someone to help you through whatever you may be going through while he is away and I think it he would know that you are working well together with that new therapist he would be just happy more than anything :)
Of course, I know those feelings and toughts that can just creep up on you and whichever way you may feel is always valid but I want you to know that you are definitely not betraying anyone and not a loser. You are such a strong and brave person and I am really proud of you, no matter what :)
Stay strong and awesome!
How are you feeling today? :) meh, to be honest. I got stood up, no message saying they cancelled. I did get to write today.
How has this week been for you? Its been a bad rollercoaster. I'm afraid that I'm going to get hurt again, I keep fighting doubt and depression..why can't I just be happy?
Do you have anything you would like to share about it? :) send prayers ive been having bad luck with phones
Hey there @Rebekahwriter13 *offering safe hugs*
It is always really nice to hear from you around here!
Oww, I am sorry to hear that, I know it can be really tough when somebody is just cancelling things on you like this. I am glad to hear that you have got to get some writing done today tho :)
I do hope that you will be able to get some time for youself this weekend tho to just recharge and relax a little bit and maybe get some more writing done after such a long week :)
I do definitely send good vibes in your way for sure either way and just really hope for the best for you. :)
Stay awesome!
@redmark
I have been struggling lately. I had someone wanting to understand one of my boundaries. It was difficult to explain. They weren't being disrespectful but it was still hard. I have this boundary to protect me but it also makes me sad. I will never have a real relationship because of it.
Hey there @RedHawk6547 *offering safe hugs*
It is always really nice to hear from you around here!
Oh...that sounds kind of nice of that person that they are taking their time to better understand you and your boundaries. Of course, I do understand that it can be really hard to explain these boundaries because it does have to do with what you have been through and also some of these boundaries can feel confining at times. I mean, of course, you know yourself the best, so I am sorry if I am totally off here, but I do hope that you will be able to find someone in the future you will be able to further refine that boundary a little bit and hopefully allow you and them to have a relationship. :)
Stay awesome!
