Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Saturday 29th of September, 2018
First of all, you all have made it through a whole week since we have last talked and I just am so very proud of you! 
How has this week been to you?
How are you feeling today?
Also, for today I have thought to bring a topic to you, something that I have some experience as well myself and I just really look forward learning more about it from and with you! :)
Grounding is just such an important thing that can help us to not get lost in our own mind or just reminder ourselves that we are at a safe place, right here, right now. Of course there are many different ways and techniques of grounding and it can really change from person to person what helps or what not.
Some common techniques, as it can be seen on the above picture, involve slow, deep breaths or just observing and feeling the world around us or just distracting ourselves. Of course there are just so many different techniques and small twists you can make on these that there would be not point starting to go to through all of them but you can read a bit more about it >here<.
For now I thought I would share some of mine, thecniques that help with my anxiety . :)
For me having a teddy bear with me helps. Not necessary to hug it - although that adds a lot to it - just knowing that it is with me helps a lot and the other big thing for me is music, I can get lost in music and just really forget the outside world or even my thoughts. Going for walks is an other thing that helps and just taking deep breaths and soaking in what I see and sense and if I can catch some of the cats around it is just to best to pet them!
What about you? What kind of techniques and things help you stay grounded? Calling a friend, spending time with a pet, a soft plushie, music or something else?
I would really love to hear from you as I really want to learn from and with you here about this and many other things!
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@crimsonLime6525
Trusting people is a hard thing to do. I recently told someone a secret too, but now I'm glad I did. I can completely understand wanting to hide under the covers. We're here with you no matter how it turns out. I'm hoping it turns out for the best though.
Hey there @crimsonLime6525 *offering safe hugs*
It is always so nice to hear from you around here!
Sharing secrets is scary for sure! I am really proud of you that you have done it tho as I know it had to be really hard and I do really hope that it will go well for you. For now it is okay to just hide under your blankets and crying is totally okay as well.
If there is anything we may be able to help you with we are always here for you so feel free to reach out to us anytime :)
Stay strong and awesome!
@redmark I will take the safe hugs, not in a good place at all right now
Hello to everyone
hope the night brings good peace and rest for all
Hey there @scarletPear1945 *offering safe hugs*
It is just so nice to see you around here!
Thank you very much and I hope that you have had a good and restful night as well and just a good weekend to recharge a bit. :)
Stay awesome!
@redmark
Just getting in from Church
Hope your day has been good
@scarletPear1945 I do hope your weekend is going well and that now you will be able to have some time for yourself after Church :)
My day is okay, just a bit more sleep would have been better but I will try to catch up with that soon :)
@redmark
Sounds good to me
I'll probably do the same
Hi RED
I've been struggling with this weird type of depression or anxiety or grief don't know why. Seems I can't shake it off. I've been trying to put on the happy face and the ok face but I am dying inside. When I decide to get a Therapist I am really on edge. Hired another online Therapist not from this site this time. They charged me $265.00 and I got two lines from her and have not heard from her again. Went to cancel and they said they will not refund my money to use the site till my month was up. Not much on the site. I think this sucks this is the kind of sh.......it.
This is why I have never had Professional help. I need to have help and I can't find anybody that is real. It seems they use us for money rip off and are not concerned for us as a people. I am tired of trying to get help, tired of trying. Doing this alone except the help I get here.
Dont want to keep doing this,
@scarletPear1945
Oh Pear I'm so sorry. Wow. That is not okay what that on-line therapist did. Have you tried an in-person counselor? It is hard to do it at first but it changed my life. Do you have insurance? If not, a lot of therapists will give you a discount. I hope you can find a good person to talk to. I can tell you are really hurting. I will pray for you. 💕
Hey there @scarletPear1945 *offering safe hugs*
It is always really nice to hear from you! :)
Aww, I am sorry to hear that you are struggling like that, I know that some days it can be really hard to just "fake it until you make it" and I am glad to hear that you have tried to reach out for help although I am really sorry to hear about the outcome of it. I mean, honestly it is just infuraiting how someone could do that and as so much money for it. I mean, honestly, I haven't had much luck with professional therpaists either to this day so I can share your feelings about not really believing in the whole thing.
On the other hand, from others that have actually found therapy useful I have heard that sometimes it took them a whole lot of tries to find the right therapist and once they found it it actually helped. Not that it is easy to keep on trying and open up to people again and again...
I mean, as you can guess, due to the fact that I haven't really had luck with therapy before either, I do not really have any adivce or tip to give but I want you to know that there is hope out there - or so I have heard.
I mean, for now you can just take your time tho and you will always be welcome here, although, we are not professional, but we would be glad to listen or just keep you company if you ever need it :)