Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Saturday 30th of March, 2019
Happy Saturday to you! I have missed you all. 
How are you feeling today? :)
How has this week been for you? Do you have anything you would like to share about it? :)
Sooo....I am working in an office and we always have a tough and veeeery busy time at the end of every quarter and this last week was just that, the last week of the quarter so I am just drained a bit. I mean, I may or may not still be sitting and typing this to you in PJs at 2 PM, who knows :P
I have made it through this crazy week and so did you. I mean, how awesome it is and how awesome we are, aren't we? ^-^
I know that some of you are battling a lot of silent battles that people may not see and just the fact that you are here right now and made it through an other week shows that you are doing a really amazing job. :)
Some days or weeks may just be hard and getting through them can be an achievement by itself and you have made it through this week and many possible weeks like that. I know it may not feel like that sometimes but you are truly just so brave and strong and I am just very proud of you for being for all of those silent battles you are winning everyday on your own.
What is your most recent achievement? Any small victory counts, there is no such a thing as too little of a thing here :)
I've decided to go full bunny today :P
Of course, as always, all of the questions are optional and there is absolutely no pressure on you to answer any of them. We are glad to have you here with us no matter what. If you would just like to say his or sit around with us for a little a bit you are always welcome as well. :)
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@redmark
just came to say hi
Hey there @conscientiousPineapple1782 *offering safe hugs*
It is always really nice to just have you here with us!
I do hope you are having a good weekend so far. ^-^
Stay awesome!
Im new here. Still trying to navigate a little. Not sure this is even the right thread to post this. The forum seems welcoming and the ability to remain anonymous is really appealing at this stage in the game.
Im just beginning to acknowledge some things Ive been dealing with for a long time. In my former line of work, showing weakness or emotions is dangerous as it would be used against you.
Now Im in a capacity at work that allows me to let my gaurd down dramatically which I would have thought should make things better, but now all of the sudden, I cant sleep, have mini panic attacks, cry for literally no reason at all and almost lose my mind in crowded places. Sometimes I think putting myself back in danger everyday at work would be easier than dealing with what I have now.
Reaching out for help is difficult. I know I need a psychologist and or meds to truly make any headway, but to pick up the phone and make that first call seems almost as tough as dealing with it daily on my own. My family is suffering watching me try to handle it on my own. My wife and kids deserve the me I used to be. They deserve to be happy and I want to be happy with them.
Its been a really rough few days.....
@littleHickory1529
Welcome. I am also in a work setting where I can't be vulnerable. I have benefitted just from knowing 7cups is here. I found a listener here who is great support for me in a completely anonymous way. Reaching out is hard, but worth it.
@ReallyRuth
Thank you, I had my first chat with a listener last night. It was tough, but really positive. I can see this place will assist a lot throughout this process. Lots of tools to help decompress and the abundance of support is awesome.
Hey there @littleHickory1529 *offering safe hugs*
Welcome here! We are really glad to have you here with us.
I would say this is any good place as anythin else. I mean, you are always welcome to just share about how you feel here, the questions are always just optional and I am really just glad you have joined us here :)
Oww...those first steps of jut really acknowledgeing your feelings, thoughts and what might have happened with you can be really hard but you do not have to do it all alone here :)
Crying is a natural reaction to release built up emotions although, not really a pleasent thing and can be quite inconvenient when you do not have that kind of a control over it but it might very well be because you are just now starting to face all that. It can and will get better - or at least I do really believe in the latter and I am willing to help you here as best as I can if you ever feel like sharing anything here or if there may be anything I - or anyone else here - may be able to help you with, we are here with you
I do not know you but I am dreading phone calls as well. It usually helps me to try to do things like this in e-mails. Even if I have not always ended up sending e-mails they have got automatically saved as a draft so I could go back to them if I have ever felt like that... Of course, my situation is most likely much different from yours but, in general, it may be worth a try to just try to write instead of calling as it can lessen anxiety as well. :)
Stay strong and awesome!
@littleHickory1529
Just wanted to say welcome. Glad that you
@redmark
Hi. My week has been ok. Work has been stressful but I've had good times with my daughter. My therapist wants me to try a support group irl. I'm not sure I'm ready for that. Anyway thanks for being here.
Hey there @RedHawk6547 *offering safe hugs*
It is always really nice to hear from you around here!
I am glad to hear that you have had an okay week overall and I am really happy to hear that you have got to spend some time with your daughter as well :)
Support groups can be really useful but, I know very well, can be really hard to start visiting. I mean, I have been visiting a different kind of self-help/support group, but, still, I remember that it took me months to get myself to get there but, ultimately, it was worth it. Of course, no pressure, I guess the point I am trying to make is that it is okay to just take as much time as you may need but it can be very well worth it in the end. :)
Stay awesome!
@redmark
Hi, Redmark <3
It's always a pleasure to see you around. Your check-in threads are awesome <3
I'm doing okay at the moment. I have a big trip on Tuesday and I'm already getting excited and nervous about it. That being said, I won't be around for about 2 weeks on 7cups and I'll miss all of you.
My week was absolutely hectic. Complete emotional rollercoaster but it should be getting better.
How are you doing?
Hey there @Ayla *offering safe hugs*
It is really awesome to have you here with us!
Thank you, I am glad that you like my check-in threads ^-^
Aww...we will miss you as well but that trip sounds pretty exciting! :)
I mean, I do hope you will have a good time in that two weeks and we will be waiting here for you and will be glad to have you back with us after it! :)
I am sorry to hear that you have had such a hard week. I am glad to hear that it is getting better for you - or it should anyway - and if there is anything we may be able to help you with we are always here for you as well, you are not alone in this. :)
Oh...me....well, I am tired, this week has been the last of the first quarter soooo a whole lot of everything going on at work but now I am just recharging so everything is fine. Thank you for asking :)
Also....for the longest time I wanted to tell you how much I just love that birb of yours. I sometimes just watch it for a good minute going back and forth. I mean, I am easily entertained especially by cute things, so do not judge me too harsh on that :P
Stay awesome!
@redmark
Hey, Red.
Thank you for the sweet words, you're always so kind and supportive!
It sounds like things at work have been busy, I hope you'll still be able to get enough rest and look after yourself. Recharging is important! I usually recharge with my favourite TV show and a tub of ben and jerry's. :)
And thanks for the birdie comment. I fell in love with it when I first saw it, as I adore birds and this one, well, I kind of put a special meaning to it . Like, it's okay to be unique and do your own thing regardless of what anyone else thinks, for example, this birdie, instead of flying - does somersaults because it likes it :D
I wish you a wonderful and not so busy week, stay awesome and remember we appreciate you <3
Hugs!
*Shares ice cream*
Hi Red. Always good to see you.
I dont really want to be here anymore right now. Sorry. Rough couple days I guess. There have been good things happening in life overall, grateful for. But it hurts right now. Flashback/painful emerging memory last night. I suspect thats probably still whats bothering me. It hurts inside. Sometimes I dont want to have to be brave or strong anymore. Everyone tells me I am, which I appreciate and does help me, but sometimes I dont want to have to be so strong. I wish I could just be a regular person with stupid regular people problems. Not repressed memories, flashbacks, anxiety attacks. Sorry. I guess Im just tired tonight. I did overschedule a little bit this week so Im probably a bit tired from that as well. I dont know. Sorry.
Hey there @pioneeringBanana1598 *offering safe hugs*
It is always really nice to hear from you as well!
Hey, deep breaths. Do not worry. You are neither a burden nor bothering anyone here. :)
There is absolutely no need to be sorry here for sharing your feelings. Your feelings are important and valid and I am glad that you have shared it with us. :)
I am sorry to hear that you are feeling like that. I know that after a long week, when it just leaves you drained it can be really hard to deal with all those feelings and thoughts and you have to be really strong and brave to face them which is not fair. I mean, I am still really proud of you for being so strong and brave but I do know that these battles can be demanding and ultimately still leave you drained and that is really unfair but, here is the thing, I remember when I have first met you here and here from you here. You have got so, so far that is just amazing.
Of course, there is still a long way to go but just look at yourself and how far you have already got. I believe in you and I believe that you can walk the rest of this road and at the end of it I believe that you can get over most of this and learn techniques and skills to effectively deal with whatever remains. I might just be naive, or too much of an optimist but I do really truly believe and I want you to know that I am willing to help as best as I can. You are not alone in this and we can do this together! ^-^
For now, just try to take some time for yourself and get some rest and feel free to reach out to us here if there ia anything we may be able to help you with and do not worry about it, you really are always welcome here :)
Stay strong and awesome!
@redmark
Hello there
today marks 2 years since the trauma first started
Maybe that's why I need to hurt myself again
Hey there @humorousBeing8966 *offering safe hugs*
It is really nice to hear from you around here again!
Oww...anniversaires are really though. I am sorry to hear that it is such a day for you but I want you to know that whatever might have happened with you was not your fault and you are a beautiful, amazing, valid, and important person, who deserves all the love and care and does not deserve to be hurt. :)
I mean, no pressure on you tho, I know it is really hard right now, just try to take it one step at a time and if there is anything we may be able to help you with we are always here for you. You are not alone in this and together we can get through this, I believe in it and I do definitely believe in you! :)
Stay strong and awesome!
Anyone else feel like they literally cannot get put of the mindset of someine who has experienced trauma, due to the fact that their identity and everyday actions and feelings are based around the pain from the trauma
Hey there @Darcshaver *offering safe hugs*
It is really nice to have you here with us.
You know, I understand you although I may not be able to exactly relate. Trauma can really be hard to deal with, and can even make you questions your validity and the person you are. I mean, not that it is in questions, you are valid, you are important and we are really glad to have you here with us. :)
On the other hand, "trauma" is the Greek word for wound. The thing with wounds are that they are painful and may restrict you in ways but they can heal. With a lot of time, effort, and attention they can heal and, while they can leave scars, you can learn to manage them better and better and get it under control.
Of course, I know it is not easy, but you are not alone in this here. We are all here for you and we are here to help you as best as we can. Also, if you ever feel like it is needed, reaching out to others, professional help even, can be really helpful as well. No pressure tho, I am really glad and proud of you for reaching out to us here already. :)
You are doing a good job, I believe in you :)
Stay strong and awesome!
@redmark thankyou so much that was helpful insight. I actually do have a domestic abuse counsellor right now! Just nice seeing people on here helping eachother so much andunderstanding
