Traumatic Experiences Community Daily Check-in Thursday 10th May 2018
Good morning to you al!
Going to keep it simple today, with a nice little quote from Winnie the Pooh "What day is it," asked Pooh. "Its today," squeaked Piglet. " My favourite day," said Pooh.
Maybe like Pooh its your favourite day today, or maybe its not so much like this. However it may be, inviting to you to think about one favourite thing for today, something you accomplished, something someone said, something you noticed, something that made a difference in your day.And at the end of the day write it down... a reminder to look for the favourite, to see the positive..
How is your day going? What's favourite for you today? Or pop in to say hi! Love to hear from you. This is your space and a safe place. x
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@rozie
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@rozie
Today is a good day. I feel loved 
It feels nice, it usualy is hard to accept but today it just embraced me.
@MaschaV so happy to hear that I wish you a lovely rest of the day!
@Hope3729
Thanks! It is so good, I can get used to this feeling
@MaschaV
How lovely to hear this Mas.. helped to make my day too. x
@rozie
thanks. The feeliing is still here this morning. It is almost something tangebile that I can wrap myself in. Nice.
I have a question. The feeling is still here, and I am really happy with that it is a great feeling.
But it also feels like it is getting too big inside, trying to take up more space. I don't know how to explain exactly but that is a scary feeling.
How do I control this so I won't drown in it?
Hey Rozie and everyone else!!
Today is good 
my favorite thing didn t happen yet but it will in two hours - because i am going to have dinner at a great restaurant hehe and i am sure it ll be my favorite part of the day. But for now, my favorite part today was seeing my brother - he lives far away and stays with us for two days now.
I am wishing everyone a lovely day!
@Hope3729
That sounds good! Enjoy your brother and your dinner
I'd say my favorite part of today is being able to be motivated to follow my schedule. Recently I've been struggling with a bout of depression, so something my therapist suggested was making daily schedules. They are rough outlines for what I want to/need to do that day. They help me keep track of what I am able to accomplish and motivate me to get things done. It has really helped me this last week, as well as remind myself to be kind when I don't get everything done. Because I was able get half or most done, that's a lot more than what I was doing before I was following the lists.
@Indistinctaurora
Oh good to hear you're motivated to keep to your schedule and Its helping you. But even more impressed that you are not being too hard on yourself and appreciating when you get half done, because that's more than you were doing before. Well done! x
@rozie thank you! I do struggle with having gentle self talk. It's something I've really been working on. I do my best to be mindful of when I'm beating myself up and also be mindful of situations where I would have beat myself up in the past. I'm by no means perfect, but as long as I remind myself that I'm making progress in a positive direction it tends to help reassure me.
@rozie
Just poping in to say hello. I dont have a favourite about today. I am dreading the weekend.
@Callipiphan
Nice to have you here with us! x
It's Mother's Day weekend. A weekend when I tend to feel most isolated from the rest of society, as the media and advertizing companies push the idea to worship the ground a mother walks on, failing to recognize the harm a dysfunctional one can cause a child under their power. The abuse I suffered at the hands of my narcissistic mother and the resulting trauma has left me a shell of the functioning human I once was.
As much as I know most of it is someone trying to sell you something, there are those who cannot see beyond their own experience to recognize, just as the holidays can be blue for those who had a tragedy or trauma around that time, so too can it be the same for other holidays, such as this one. A good parent is worthy of recognition more than once a year (or twice for their birthday) anyway. 7cups isn't a total reprieve from this holiday either, as I've seen at least one forum lead post about how mothers are always awesome and always think in the best interest of their children.
It takes a great deal of acceptance and self-care to not feel overwhelmed this time of year.
@Zeraphim
I wholeheatedly agree with you.... glad you've brought this to our notice. And I'm sorry to hear that you had a narsisistic mother, who has clearly had such a negative impact on your life. Sadly many of us haven't had the mothers that we deserved as children and we didn't have the love and nurture, safety and stability, that children need. This anniversary can be just as difficult as other holidays, and there should be sensitivity here too.
Maybe just to know that you are not alone and that we provide space here for those who are feeling this.It can help to make some plans about how you're going to spend the day. Thinking of you. x
@rozie Thank you, Rozie. Your reply really helped me feel heard.
I should have clarified, it wasn't a forum lead from the traumatic experiences subcommunity. It was in another subcommunity. So no need to search. I've already commented on the thread where the comment about mothers was said and I said what I felt was important to address. So the issue has been addressed and I will see what comes of it.
Thanks again for your caring, thoughtful response. :)
@Zeraphim
Thanks Zeraphim. I wasn't very clear either.. was meaning on the 7cups site. Glad that you have responded to the post, and as you say, see what comes of it..
Even though last night was terrible, and I don't remember much of it, I'm glad it's over and I'm trying to make most of my day today. I hate wasting time (doesn't mean I don't do it though), so I wanna make up for it and work a lot today. I think it's enough that I have a schedule and list of things to do today. Just for today, these few things. I feel like I can do it, and am willing to reajust things if something happens to throw me off. I hope by the end of the day, I'm still at least just a little motivated to finish up and face the night. Maybe I'll feel just a tiny bit accomplished. Thank you for these check-ins Everyone, have a super awesome day!
@loyalDrum2337
hey Drum, its every little tiny bit that counts. x
@rozie Ya, thank you so much for reminding me <3
Today has been a DAY!!!!! And now I
@BeeLeigh
Oh Bee, sounds like some day.!!! Hope the tyres are done now and you can go home for some rest and relaxation.
@rozie
Oh yeah. They
I am struggling today. My emotions are overwhelming me. I had an exam this morning and I was very anxious and I didn't really calm down until this evening when I saw some friends and we played around with feather fans and just had a relaxing time. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
Love and hugs to all
@FloweringBunny
Sounds like its been a tough day for you. But good to hear you relaxed with some friends later on Yes hoping tomorrow is a better day. x
@rozie
Thanks rozie
@singercrystalspirit
Hi Singer, nice to have you here with us. x
