Traumatic experiences Daily check in for Sunday, November 18th!
Hey lovelies!
Hope you are having a lovely day! Today my check in for you guys is all about change and discovery! So this weekend I took a really huge trust step with my family and Im super proud of myself! So my questions for you today are:
What have you tried lately? How did that affect your mental health?
What is something you want to try? What is stopppng you?
Have you discovered something about yourself or trauma recently? If so what and how did you feel after?
have a wonderful Sunday!
@krispykitty12
Hi. I hope your day is going okay.
What have you tried lately? How did that affect your mental health?
Lately I have been trying to enforce boundaries. It is very stressful, but I also feel like it is good for my mental health to no be allowing everyone to treat me like a doormat.
What is something you want to try? What is stopping you?
I want to be able to tell about what happened. Not the details, but more in general the secrets and nightmares that play in my head. What is stopping me is fear and shame.
Have you discovered something about yourself or trauma recently? If so what and how did you feel after?
I discovered that there is so much more behind the wall I've built around me than I realized. I've hidden and buried so much behind the wall. It makes me feel very alone.
@practicalIdeal2007 it sounds like you are moving in a positive direction! Boundaries are super important especially after trauma! I
@practicalIdeal2007
I too have come to realize That I hid and buried so much more than I ever realized. It makes me feel really alone sometimes too. But I guess were not really alone because we both are experiencing similar things. I dont know if that helps. Sometimes helps me to know Im not the only one going through something.
@pioneeringBanana1598 love how you responded ! Keep supporting yourself and others! <3
@pioneeringBanana1598
I appreciate your response. I feel so very alone lately. I feel like people don't understand me. They can't because they don't know. They can't know because I can't share. I like not being alone.
@practicalIdeal2007
I like not being alone too
What have you tried lately? Chatted and encouraging others
How did that affect your mental health? I feel good for the moment
What is something you want to try? I want move out of my current location
What is stopppng you? Energy and money, can't get a job (health reasons)
Have you discovered something about yourself or trauma recently? It is so much worst when I'm tired
If so what and how did you feel after? Exhausted, tired of being tired
@Rebekahwriter13 it sounds like you are in a kinda stick situation! I wish I could take it away for you. I cant work because of health reasons as well so I get it! If you ever need support feel free to reach out! Have a fabulous day lovely!
@krispykitty12
I appreciate your response. I'm also flustered that my doctors aren't listening to me
@Avaray is missing from taglist we fixed it on my last checkin
@CaringBrit oops sorry!
Here is missing part of the tag list.
@InvaderStitch @redmark @Avaray @Shadeshack @Faeryschild
@practicalIdeal2007 appreciate it!
@practicalIdeal2007
Xx
@Avaray
You are an important part of the community. I hope you know that. I know how I would feel if I was dropped off the taglist. I'll try to keep a better eye out to make sure people aren't missed.
@practicalIdeal2007
Thank you... That means a lot to me 💜
@CaringBrit
Xx
Just wanted to stop in and say hello
@amiableBeing8117 well Im so glad you did!!! Hello!
Hi
Feel so sad tonight. On and off all day today. I know Im overreacting but Im also genuinely hurt. Feel abandoned by some friends who became very close very quickly and were extremely supportive and welcoming and made me feel like I actually belonged somewhere for the first time in a long time. Now theyve gotten themselves all stressed out and worked up and we went from spending time together every day to spending almost no time together it feels like lately because they are so busy. Im not saying theyre not busy but theyre not the only ones. I know they really do care about me but right now it feels like they dont want me or they dont love me anymore. It took me so long to try and find somew that I actually felt safe and accepted and like I belonged. Like someone actually saw me, the real me, and wanted that person. Now I feel like Ive lost that. In all reality, theyre probably stressed out and eventually will chill out and have some time for me again. But it also makes me feel like its a situation in which I have no control. Feels like they have all the power and say over when we spend time together and what were doing and so on. I dont enjoy being in a relationship where I feel I dont have as much say as the other party. Again, probably An overreaction because they are good people who genuinely care about me. But its hard to tell that sometimes and it really hurts at times. Im trying but only having limited success. :(
@krispykitty12
Hiii! I have big news! I was being stalked by an ex for 4+ years which robbed me of joy in my life and made me feel hunted down and weak. But on Thursday, I found the courage to finally tell police after such a long time of silence. I'm in a rough place from having to speak of everything and hand in all of the evidence but I can finally know I'm free. I'm no longer prey and I finally have the freedom to recover and truly live. This is a huge milestone I never thought I'd reach because of suicidal swings and panic attacks on top of bad experiences with police but everything has really gone quite smoothly and I've been left alone almost entirely and unbothered.
I'm happy to be able to share this milestone with everyone. I have recovered from abuse from a parent and now I can finally recover from the events that hurt me for so long that I suffered with in silence. Things get better, even when you feel like you're on death's door and this truly proved that to me.
Hi, I don't post much here but I want to. Here's mine:
Recently I tried being more honest with myself and others about how I feel. I opened up to a close friend, I opened up to a new friend, and I really thought through my own process and feelings. All had positive results. Vulnerability is super important, but it is also really scary. However, I know that bravery isn't about not being scared-- it's about being scared and then doing the scary thing anyway.
I want to try and do more each and every day, but I feel like my lack of energy and motivation is stopping me. I am so fatigued all the time. I find it very easy to slip into Lethargy Mode because even thinking about doing more really makes me anxious. However, I definitely do not do enough-- I'd say I do the bare minimum-- and if I'm not pushing myself, how will I make any progress? I combat this by (trying) to maintain a positive attitude, create extra incentive, I take B-vitamins, I go on 7cups, and I try and keep a routine.
A recent discovery I made about my trauma was this: I strive for perfection more than I think that I do. In talking to friends I started to notice, thanks to them, that I really parrot a lot of the abusive language I received in my own head. I'm never good enough, I'm always creating problems, I'm always doing things wrong. I feel guilty for so much. It really opened my eyes. I'm forever trying to be kinder to others. It's time to try being kinder to myself.
Thanks for listening.
