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Self Esteem Wall building challenge!

User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 June 26th, 2017

Wall of Self-Esteem

Often as Survivors we build up our walls, our defenses to keep people out because we have suffered trauma that has left us unable to trust others, fearful of being hurt again, unable to let anyone close to us. Walls at times can be good, but more often than not, they can turn from something that acted as a protection or means of safety, to something which becomes self-defeating, isolating and something which often makes people feel even worse about themselves.

With that im mind I have a challenge for you!!! To build a 'wall of Self-Esteem'!!! Self-esteem is often shot to pieces for many people who have suffered traumatic experiences and so I challenge you to find one good thing about yourself per day, per week, per month and to submit your positive affirmation about yourself and add to the "Self-Esteem Wall"

The idea behind this is to start to begin to see the good qualities we have, instead of reinforcing the negative messages you hold about yourselves, and to begin to see all the things that other people are able to see in you. Finding a positive thing to say about yourselves probably won't come easy to you, even if others can see what you can't. And so because of this, this challenge is two fold. To find that one good thing about yourself to contribute to the wall, and for others too to submit their affirmation about you!!! If someone submits a positive affirmation about you, you may not believe it, perhaps will even want to dismiss it instantly, but its also a reality that another person holds about you smiley Each affirmation will have your username attached to it, so that you can see all the good things about yourselves that you have submitted.

On your tough days, which you will get when healing from trauma, it can be hard to hold onto the positive things that we can see within ourselves and so the wall we act as a reminder to you all, that even on your really bad days, those good things still exist about you :) They can't be taken away or erased

I will post an imgur image for you to see a rough idea of how this will work. What we hope is that over time, this wall gets bigger and bolder and full of all the wonderful things about you all smiley Trauma can often feel as though it has erased anything good that existed prior to the traumatic experiences themselves, but that good still resides in you, no matter how bad you feel about yourselves.

*Each time one of you submits your affirmation, the image will be updated regularly to show the submissions that have been added to the wall.

We hope over time to build a massive self esteem wall, full of colour, full of positive statements about us as Survivors of Trauma. I hope you will take part and begin to see a little good within you which is often very difficult when your in the midst of trying to cope with your experiences and how its left you feeling about yourself.smiley

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User Profile: SunFern
SunFern June 26th, 2017

@dancingRainbow45

I am confident. smiley

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User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 OP June 26th, 2017

@SunFern Confidence is not always easy to achieve and its always great when you finally feel able to say your a confident person, who is so capable of achieving all that you wish for smiley

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SunFern June 26th, 2017

@dancingRainbow45

rightly said ! and thanks heart

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User Profile: Sawyer0502
Sawyer0502 June 26th, 2017

I am valid and competent to be who I am.

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Sawyer0502 June 26th, 2017

@dancingRainbow45

User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 OP June 26th, 2017

@Rgk2002 Always be who you are, never change who you are for others. You are just as valid as anybody else, no matter what anyone else wishes to believe. Thank you smiley

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User Profile: Asiam1971
Asiam1971 June 26th, 2017

I can accept and honor vulnerability

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User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 OP June 26th, 2017

@Asiam1971 To be able to honour and accept vulnarability takes a special person indeed. Thank you smiley

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User Profile: Zeraphim
Zeraphim June 26th, 2017

I have a good sense of humour.

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User Profile: Rain45
Rain45 OP June 26th, 2017

@Zeraphim having a sense of humour and the ability to make others laugh and smile is always something to be treasured smiley

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Rain45 OP June 27th, 2017

@agreeableKite4304 @BeeLeigh @DeborahUK

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wontwakewontsleep June 29th, 2017

@dancingRainbow45 - How amazing to think of visualizing this, I think this will turn out great!

I'm good at learning new things.

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Rain45 OP June 29th, 2017

@wontsleepwontwake

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User Profile: Asiam1971
Asiam1971 June 30th, 2017

I can forgive and let go

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Rain45 OP June 30th, 2017

@Asiam1971

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lovingBanana5204 July 2nd, 2017

I am loyal to my friends.

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Rain45 OP July 2nd, 2017

@lovingBanana5204 @agreeableKite4304 @TreesandWine

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Rain45 OP July 3rd, 2017

@DeborahUK

User Profile: Morfo66
Morfo66 December 16th, 2017

I'm always improving and not settling, love challenges.

December 17th, 2017

I can do aything that i put my mind to andI own my life so I can say no to people that cuases me harm.