How to deal with DID

@Kittymeow333

Hello Kitty, Wow you are so right in there was no help for us older people that suffered from DID. This is really just becoming something that the medical personnel is beginning to recognize. I have just been given the same diagnosis of DID. I understand that now that you know where do you go and what steps do you need to take to communicate with the insiders. Seeing as we are both new at this I can give you a starting place that will help you to begin a dialog with the insiders. You mentioned that your system is 15 years old, do you know how many are in the system so far? The best way I found is to start a journal and invite any of your headmates to begin to feel safe with you so you can find out in what ways you can support them and meet their needs. Start with basic things like blankets soap towels and small stuff. Leave them where if they come front they will see the things and take them. As they and you begin to build trust amongst one another they will begin to front a bit more. Find out their likes and dislikes by asking questions just as you would someone you are just meeting. All of this is a process that takes time and getting to trust each other is a real biggie. Journal journal leave the paper out for them to write in your journal because they will at some point they feel safe enough to front.

I am ScarletPear1945 you can look for me around the 50+forum or around. I look to see you real soon and good luck for you and your system😊

@Kittymeow333

thank you for opening up about this, that can be quite scary.

I have made multiple posts about DID/OSDD you might find helpful.

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@Kittymeow333

I'm using the mic and it sucks so just letting you know. Trauma in the whole field is a pretty much new area and it has it been developed and done much with and it just started growing since the 90s it started going with the vets from the wars and they started learning from that but that is quite different Trauma from the trauma that a lot of this experience from abuse and all the various different types of abuse that we have it's entirely different and it needs to be treated different and with different techniques excetera so the whole trauma feels is very new and growing and please keep up-to-date with it and please search for accurate in new information and follow it what you can that's the best I can advise you.. If you can do that you will know what on The Cutting Edge in what kind of treatment is coming up in what treatment has been working and what is been successful in how it's been working in what would therefore best serve you for help. I've been around since before the 90 days with did and then it was c-ptsd but now they don't even recognize c-ptsd and they just classified as p t s d and it's basically a political thing but they won't say it's a political thing but it is and it does affect treatment in what you're able to be diagnosed with and therefore what you're able to be diagnosed with is affects what you're able to get treatment for excetera excetera excetera so please just keep researching and educate yourself and follow some of the things that are being developed and look into some of the people that have been around since the 90s in what they've been doing some of them are still there and they know a lot they've been there awhile and you might call them old fogies but they have great knowledge and experience they try to life things they've learned a lot of things and they know what works and what doesn't work and they're trying new techniques some of them so and some of the people that are younger are coming aboard and trying to learn and catch on and they've learned from these people in they're trying to catch on and learn new techniques themselves so kind of grass fall that take it in and figure out what you want to learn from and go for for yourself to learn from and learn what you want and then you can see what help and treatment you feel is best for yourself that you can afford. It's good to find what you think you know for sure is working techniques that are not old outdated unworkable methods for this trauma which there are many and then what she find what you want to pursue then therefore look for ways it will take a lot of work with this but look for ways to fine any and all possible assistance to afford are any possible assistance with affording any kind of assistance with the therapy or psychological assistance for this. The best help you can get it it's the best trained in the trauma and the best educated will give you the most help in the most results in the least amount of time but all trauma usually takes pretty good amount of time as is the nature of it it's just not a quick fix unless you've got one little simple trauma and it's one little incident and sometimes that can be fixed more easily but usually trauma is much more complex and does take a lot of time and that's why I'm trying to explain the importance of all this in it's very important in to look up and keep looking up all this stuff and keep staying current and just keep looking it up every few months and you could find new ways to afford things new things that could come up and it's not a matter so much of switching if you get to a comfortable therapist but there could be a new way to afford something if you come up or you know it doesn't hurt to look if you have access to the internet assuming we don't end up in war here pretty soon which could really hurt us all in a lot of ways my relatives have lived to war before which I know a lot of y'all are younger and this is news to you but I hope you don't have to go through it. But please do keep looking things up and stay on top of things and don't give up and no trauma feel this new it's emerging and it's constantly changing and don't discount the people that have been there awhile since the 90s when it started really learning emerging and growing it because some of them are still there and they do know a lot in there making still a lot of advances in their training people up under them and a lot of them are training people are better than that you could seek treatment from and you could follow also treatment seminars and other resources did they have that you could follow him if you choose to I have access to that and it's free to look at and follow back I can't just give that out of here if they were just flat censor this. I know this is like a lot of a run-on long-ass paragraph but I apologize I've lost my message to type and I'm not a vocal person and I'm using the microphone in you've got me at my worst and I apologize. I will just share that I've been going through trauma for decades and my own choices have kept me in some trauma and it's my own fault and that kid off and have him with trauma and it has happened with me and it's my own fault and I grew up with trauma and developmental stages and I've just kept some of my habits and trying to help and fix and care I do not hurt and harm and I know a lot of people do with trauma but I don't and I'm grateful that I don't and I'm blessed but I've made a lot of bad decisions and choices and I've nothing great or perfect or new or anything special and I'm no better than anyone else but all I'm asking for you is to please to look things up for yourself and decide for yourself and stay in touch with things for yourself in time to stay abreast of the current knowledge and please don't discount if people that have been there since the early nineties, have been retiring and summer still there but some are still there and some have been shut down for political reasons that there's no need even going into but there were shut down for political reasons for their political reasons because they were wanted to be shut down but they know what they're talkin about in just look up things for yourself and decide for yourself and it's there in educate knowledge free yourself or help yourself and what you get that education and knowledge and you get enough of it assuming it's not all blocked out from where you're at and then look for resources to help you pay for it and that's the best advice I can give you from Decades of this and I hope that will help you in some way if I could hug you and hold you and almost want to give you cheers to help you but I know you need to do this on your own cuz I've been trying to help other people in but it's up to each person to help me self and I've got to help myself as I've been making some bad decisions for myself and not looking out for my own self and try to help others and not taking care of myself like I should and I know it's part of a trauma response from my childhood has carried but it's still my own choice in the wrong choices and I'm responsible for myself just as you will be for yourself all your life so please look up your education and decide what's best for yourself in what you decide keep looking up and keep looking up for resources to help you afford it. I'm very sorry this is such a run-on long crappie probably paragraph that look small long but it's just not my style and not me but this is all I can do right now is what I have left to communicate with but I wish the best for you and I just want you to be able to do the best for yourself and do the best to help yourself and it's all I want for you for you to be able to do the best for yourself where you can be better take care I keep having to hook to the internet I hope this goes to take care sorry this is so long and run on I know much better I'm sorry