Weekly Creative Prompt - DID Safety and Stabilisation Group
Hi all,
Thanks to everyone who has joined us in the Safety & Stabilisation chats recently. A lot of you shard that you regulate yourselves with hobbies and that you would appreicate some creative prompts. In honour of World DID day I thought this 1st Creative prompt could be about something we appreciate about our parts/inner family.
It could be that they helped us survive, a trait you enjoy or anything else you like. Feel free to write, draw, paint or craft something. I'd love it if you share below what you have made. If you don't want to make something feel free to share a post anyway.
I'll tag in those on the usual list for this first post so you can all find us. Let us know in group if you don't want to join in for future weeks. Stay safe till I see you again 💜
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@LifeIsMyCanvas
This is extremely helpful 🩵 🤗
Thank you!
Looking forward to learning more!
@LifeIsMyCanvas
hope this ok we not up to doing art on this right now so we made this now part of it us writing as a team other parts be me birth person writing hope this not confuse others by the way my name is lily
we love how each of us can help each other so many things we deal with daily for us that seem to be health stuff medical appointment not having much support from others so for us the inside groups our clans be there to support and help each other out most the time it why we work as best we can as a team now
I as the birth person really appreciated the others within as know I not be here if they was not there as when I could hand no more they came into being to keep me alive and sane too really feel that without this becoming many parts I not be here today as within the abuse and even healing I at times feel like without the others I be dead
we in past have painted and draw like us being many pieces of broken glass but within that we feel each piece is being made into a part of a stain glass window with all the broken pieces of glass becoming a beautiful stain-glass window as we come together in healing more and more an work more and more as a team daily
many have asked us if we want to fully blend back into just one truth is we not want to do that but it up to each of us if we want to blend into others we delt with our parts of the abuse we all made agreement on this part some have blend into others no longer have own identity but was up to them not forced on them if that makes since to others people
I as birth person feel I am healing daily but still have long ways to go most the time now I am the one out front with one or more others this seem to work for us best but it hard too at times for log long time I was not one out front others handled most of daily living but now I am out most the time with others can be very scary world we live in too
oh why we not say we a family inside due to my abuse was by family members and their friends so we see our self as clans and have one from each clan report to others in their clan this seem to work for us too seeing there so many of us
@stormieandpaws
I love how you are all there for each other and that you let each other choose bout blending together (or not). My system has been the same way for years now. It's ok to not all them your inner family. I never used to call mine that until I realised that they were the family I wanted to have. Helped with my grief a little. I just used the family word as not everyone likes 'system'. We all have our own preferences.
Thanks to you all for joining in 💜
@LifeIsMyCanvas
thanks we have birth family and call the people we met and who support us and we support them care about each other too that to us is family of the heart inside we have clans that kinda like different groups of ones inside as our system in very big but guess all the clans together are like a family with many in it too
we do support each other work together for the good for all within too this not always easy as still have at times disagreements and even fights at times but mostly we get along now but this was not always the case we found that ones within that acted up even seemed bad evil they did it to push others away due to fear and being hurt by others so we allowed them time to work through that all
not sure how or even if you have inside world you all can see we do many were within the caves hiding from others some alone others in small groups but over time they came out and live within the city or gardens this has happened over time truth is we still not sure if others still in hiding we not know yet
we was told that once ones split they can keep doing it when things happen so with being in abuse so long still unsure if we know everyone within that kinda scary in away
@stormieandpaws
Parts fragment to hold trauma when the response needed is different from a coping skill that is currently held in the system or when the part holding that response is overwhelmed.
In the past I have prevented new parts forming by:
1. Removing myself (as much as possible) from abusers & their enablers. If I can't avoid contact or withdawing quickly will put me in danger, I created safe spaces for us. Even if it was a journal for me to write our reality in - we kept it in the inner world away from nosey people.
2. Buddying up parts so that they can share each others action systems (coping strategies). That way one can take over when the other is overwhelmed. Also offering emotional support to each other can help too.
It's not so common to crete parts in adult years but it can happen and it's a sign that more support is needed. You are always welcome at group, we love to have you with us and offer support 💜
@LifeIsMyCanvas
thank you for us we not created new parts since we left our now ex hubby he would call out very young parts to abuse them w never know this until after we left him
hard part id due to forgetting stuff under the age of 11yr we married one of our childhood abusive this was done due to he fooled us he acted nice before we married him used our grandpa who had already died he told us that grandpa said we marry some day we now think the cards he sent with very nice writings in he had another write what was said in them he was in navy when we started dating we now believe he set out to trick us into marrying him the bedroom abuse started week after marrying him
so we believe new ones were formed to deal with that all some have talk about stuff they handled with in the 11 year marriage
this we have regattas about but not having the 3 kids
so now we have better coping skills and safe places within
@stormieandpaws Paws I loved reading how all the pieces came together to make a beautiful stained glass window. Thank you for sharing this ❤️ I agree with Canvas with letting the others choose whether or not they blend and how you help each other and help each other like a team. This is great to hear
@mytwistedsoul
thank you we found to just let everyone have a say in things not force anyone to blend into others helps a lot as each there for a reason working as a team just made more since to us in the long run
I thought I'd share my gratitude for others and all they've held for me over last 4 decades by sharing a poem I wrote:
I, Myself and War
I and myself are always at war,
My nervous system can’t take any more,
Which version of me will come out today,
Will it be to war or just for play?
My brain is full with scars to bare,
Will I be scared or not even care,
All of these things exist inside,
When it’s too much I just want to hide.
Excited child and sad all at once,
Thats until another fronts,
How can I plan my day,
When I don’t know if I will stay.
I keep going one step at a time,
Wondering when this life becomes mine,
Still stuck in the past with all of their fears,
Still wiping cheeks full of tears.
It’s so hard to watch them hurt,
To brush them down, remove the dirt,
I wish they could see through my eyes,
They’re so brave and oh so wise.
I want my life to be mine,
But I can’t deny they’re my sunshine,
Through all the tough angry wars,
They still have my highest applause.
I will leave this prompt up till the end of the month and then we will create a new one 😁
@LifeIsMyCanvas This is such a great poem Canvas! Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️
@LifeIsMyCanvas
love this we posted we wrote one called childwithin this link to it kinda relates to one you shared
https://www.7cups.com/forum/poetry/EmotivePoetryTW_2629/cildwithin_363244/
