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Dealing with the aftermath of a narcissistic ex husband while having to still co-parent with them

User Profile: limegreenStrings5305
limegreenStrings5305 August 9th, 2023

I am trying to navigate my trauma response due to the mental and emotional abuse I endured for 20yrs as well as co parent with this narcissist.

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User Profile: justjack2001
justjack2001 August 9th, 2023

@limegreenStrings5305

Hello limegreenStrings5305,


Dealing with the aftermath of a narcissistic ex-husband while co-parenting can be incredibly challenging, especially when it involves trauma from mental and emotional abuse. It's important to prioritize your well-being and find healthy ways to navigate this situation. Here are a few suggestions:


1. **Seek Support:** Reach out to a therapist or counselor who specializes in trauma and narcissistic abuse. They can provide guidance and strategies to cope with your trauma responses and manage co-parenting challenges.


2. **Set Boundaries:** Establish clear boundaries with your ex-husband to protect yourself emotionally. Focus on communication that is strictly related to co-parenting matters and avoid engaging in unnecessary interactions.


3. **Focus on Your Well-being:** Prioritize self-care and engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Taking care of your mental and emotional health is essential for both you and your children.


4. **Document Interactions:** Keep a record of all co-parenting interactions, including communication and any concerning behavior. This documentation can be useful if legal or custody issues arise.


5. **Utilize Support Systems:** Lean on friends, family members, or support groups who understand your situation and can provide emotional support.


6. **Consider Mediation:** If communication with your ex-husband becomes difficult, consider utilizing a professional mediator to help facilitate discussions and reduce conflicts.


7. **Educate Yourself:** Learn about narcissism and its effects on co-parenting dynamics. Understanding the behavior can help you navigate challenges more effectively.


Remember, your well-being and the well-being of your children are the top priorities. It's important to take steps that ensure a safe and healthy environment for everyone involved.


Take care,

Jack