How can I leave Canada in my current situation to return to Europe? Especially with abusive parents?
Good evening everyone,
I currently living in a shared house with 4 other housemates in Waterloo ON, until the end of August, where I NEED to leave this house in September as my lease ends at the end of August. Equivalent of N11 already done in WhatsApp with my landlords. I don't want to explain why my ex-parents are abusive, but they are abusively in every possible way aside from physical abuse, as far as I know. They live in Toronto ON.
I am not happy living in Canada anymore for various reasons and I rather return to Europe anyway not just because of my ex-parents. I was thinking of either the UK (Northern Ireland - where I was born perhaps), France (where I previously lived after NI before immigrating to Canada), or Hungary where I have distant family there and have visited twice recently. I am a dual British/Irish citizen by birth & Hungarian/Canadian citizen through my ex-parents. Unfortunately, I only speak English fluently due to various factors so I would have to learn Hungarian and/or relearn my French, which I don't mind doing. If you have suggestions for other countries too where I could live in instead let me know. I was thinking of also Malta or Cyprus for the better weather, not that I have been to either country though. It's less suitable though because I don't currently know how to drive yet, although I am planning to learn when I return to Europe.
I don't really have any savings at the moment. I only just recently got a job and only with help from a local job developer here almost a year later. Unfortunately, it's night shifts and my terrible mental health can't take that anymore. I was fine with working daytime/evening shifts though. Never had any previous experience working nightshifts. Unfortunately, they only offer nighttime work sadly. So I will need to find something else. I was also thinking of selling my Mac mini M4 that I got with passport funding from the Ontario government or my bike to recoup funds. I also could see if I can get a loan that I can pay back when I have employment in whatever European country I decide to live in once I return.
Yes, I have my valid passports, aside from my Hungarian one as I have never been issued one before. I just have my Hungarian identity card that I applied for last year in Hungary. Hungary would be the cheapest country to live in, unlike France or the UK. But any of the English speaking countries would be easier for me in terms of no language barrier but more expensive than Hungary, maybe aside from Malta, or if you would include Cyprus in this too? Dunno.
I don't know anyone else who can really help me with this, including in Europe. I feel really stuck and I feel hopeless. I don't want to end up having to go to a shelter if I can avoid it. Any advice on how I can get out of this current situation?
You mentioned having family in Hungary. Would they help you? Or would they support your parents? Another thing you might consider is if you have kept in contact with any friends in any of the countries mentioned. You are in a tough spot. You don't have a support system. You haven't mentioned any jobs or skills you have. That might influence your decision as well. I understand that you don't want to go into a shelter. It may be your best option, though. I am in the US, and many shelters here have employment and therapy services. If you want to move to another country, keep that goal. You will need money, not just for passage, but for housing and food until you can find a job. It sounds like you are going to have a hard time saving up for that. Don't try to press to do anything too soon. I know that you feel like the end of your lease is a deadline. It is not a deadline for you having to leave Canada. Take a breath. Release the pressure. You mentioned mental health struggles. A new environment can worsen them. I am not a professional. I can't predict what will happen. Just be mindful that a new place will not solve your problems.
My family there would support my parents unfortunately. My friends in other countries can’t/aren’t really willing to help me…
@Owenthered
I live in UK, just FYI it's very expensive here and in England citizens aren't entitled to most benefits if you haven't lived in the country for 2 years. Best to check if you choose to come back to UK what you would be entitled too. Most countries that you are not a citizen of will require you to have money to support yourself and potentially a job offer/work visa before you come. My friend was out of the UK for years and had to sleep on a friends sofa for 2+ years before they gave her a hostel room and it was another year + before she got housing due to her severe disabilities.