I no longer have a family

Last year I left home to go to university, about half way through the year my parents started to act differently towards me. Everytime I went home my mam would cry and tell me how I've changed and how letting me move away was the worst decision she's ever made. My dad would not speak to me for weeks. All throughout my life living at home my dad would randomly stop speaking to me and acknowledging me, usually when him and my mam had had a fight but sometimes just for no reason at all. I made the decision to not go home for the summer as my parents said I wouldn't be allowed to visit the place I go to uni and my friends at uni became my support system as I struggled through depression. After not going home I was bombarded with messages from my mam ans my dad had convinced her that I was "cutting off the family" and that i was choosing my friends over them. He also sent alot of messaged that implied that my friends dont care about me and that i wouldnt be able to live without them. all I asked is that I could still visit uni if I went home for summer and somehow that was the worst thing in the world to them. It's now the end of summer and my brothers birthday was at the start of this month, I was asked by my mam to come home for it and that I wouldn't be forced to stay and I agreed as i missed my mam and my brothers. The morning I was supposed to leave I woke up to a message from my dad, it was a video of my mam having a panic attack and was captioned "your mam right now because of you" I responded asking why he would send me that when i was just about to come home and we got into an argument, I then sent a message to my mam telling her I wanted to talk to her before I went home and told her I didn't understand why he'd send me such an upsetting message. She didn't reply. I haven't heard from either of them since.

I dont understand what I did wrong. All I wanted was to be able to visit the place I'd lived for the past year. I now seem to have lost both my parents and it feels like I'm losing my brothers too, I don't know whats going on in anyones lives. But after some of the horrific messages my dad has sent me and how he has treated me my whole life I want nothing to do with him. He's a manipulative horrid man and my mam has chosen him over me.

I feel like I've lost my family because of him, he's treated everyone like crap and both emotionally and physically abused us and they still chose him.