Is this SA?
TW: SA
i told my boyfriend that I would be more open to having sex with him, even though i am scared.. I told him this months ago. I haven’t been over to his house much but he invited me over. He started trying to get touchy with me, I would kind of like get nervous & move subtly so that he wasn’t touching me but tried to make it subtle because i knew i had said i would be okay with it. He did this a few times then started to make out with me in which i was struggling because i didn’t want to do that. Usually i give in to the making out and we end up making out heavy and end up doing some things. But this time i just stayed still and kept slowly kissing him, but it would stop. Like the making out would stop when it would usually not because it would lead to us doing more stuff. but he then grabbed my chest, I didn’t stop him because he usually waits until i grab his hand and guide him to touch me. he then proceeded to get on top of me and start dry humping me, stuff we usually do but he has also never initiated that. he’s always kind of let me guide him. i was just frozen and stayed still.
Was this SA?
Or is it my fault for telling him that i would try to be more open to doing stuff?…
@ivoryBlueberry4615 I completely think this is something that needs to be brought up between you two. While yes, you had said you'd be more open to it- From what you said you had clearly done nothing to show you were interested at that moment. I think there should be clear boundaries set up between you two instantly so he doesn't do this.
I think this can definitely be classified as SA, it's not your fault for expressing your feelings and wanting to try new things- If anything it's his for taking advantage of that situation.
