Recent SA
I was raped this past weekend by a new sexual partner named Dustin who I matched with on Bumble or Hinge. I consented to a few different sexual acts, but expressed uncertainty about something specific. He ended up performing that sexual act anyway without checking for consent. I’m feeling upset, ashamed, guilty, scared, betrayed, and hurt. I was assaulted when I was 20, so my body remembers. I’m so scared to tell my family, friends, and my new boyfriend. I know they all love me and care about me, but I’m worried about how they’ll respond.
I didn’t cheat on my bf btw, this happened before we started dating.
@safeandsoundta
I am sorry to hear what happened. This is a traumatizing situation and I understand how it is hard to talk about. The fact that he ignored the boundary you expressed shows that this Dustin did not care about you as a person. I know this post has gone without response for a month, so I want to check in to see if there is any updates, did you tell anyone since this post?
I told my immediate family, several close friends, and my boyfriend. I am seeking crisis counseling starting on Oct 2nd at a government funded center for free!!
@safeandsoundta
I am glad to hear that you told several people, including your boyfriend, and that you have gotten support. I am also glad to hear that you will be seeking crisis counseling pretty soon. I really hope that they give you tools to help you navigate this trauma. How are you feeling?