What to do?
I live with a narcissist, who is my dad. I always try to give him grace and understand him but he’s very mean and harmful towards me, I also feel like he favors my sister over me. He is also incredibly racist and we don’t see eye to eye often. Any advice? I am unable to leave the house at the moment and I’m currently trying to find a job, but I want advice to make the rest of my stay here more tolerable, I feel very miserable. I am still in college studying and he is paying my tuition which I am grateful for but I feel he holds it over my head. Any advice is welcomed and I would appreciate if I could speak to someone about this in greater detail. Thank you
@sparklesha I don't know if I can give you any suggestion but I can understand what you're going through as I'm in the same situation my both parents are kind of toxic and I'm still dependent on them so can't move out from the house to find some peace. I hope you to work so hard on yourself and get out of the situation you're facing right now and get everything you wished for. Take care 😊
Sending you peace! I pray me and you can both make it out of this tough situation
@sparklesha you can talk to a listener like me or others by going to the community tab..
Good luck dealing with narcissists....
It is a very challenging and brave thing you are doing! 🌟
@AsherTree Hello, can you tell me how can talk to the listeners. I mean idk how to as I joined today
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It's in the community tab. On the left side.. it says something like "chat now"
@sparklesha I was raised by a narcissistic mother so I feel you on everything you just said. Does he put you down often each day for example: does he tell you that you won't ever amount to anything or nobody cares about you, or that stop that writing because no one will ever read anything you have to say? Sounds familiar? I heard things like that every day from 6 years old and until I went no contact with my mother at 49 years of age and I'm 62 now... Does he verbally abuse you subtly so that nobody heard what he says to you but they see your reaction to what he does say? I wouldn't wish that happen to anyone because it is terrifying to a kid and hard to fathom as am adult. My advice would stay away from him as much as possible, is there anywhere you could go until say dinner time every day? PM me reach out if you are there and he starts with you okay bc you are NOT alone😇
The verbal abuse is definitely a given. He diminishes my intelligence a lot and views me as someone who is stupid and has unimportant input. He never takes my opinion for anything, and he’s also gotten close to being violent towards me, I have been avoiding him more and more the older I get, I still have to depend on him for daily needs but I try to keep a safe distance. He has a very ill temper and gets mad very quickly and views his ideas and words as law.
I kinda feel like we share the same feeling about our father, and what I’d suggest to you and to myself even it sounds very difficult, to stay patient a little more but search for an escape ( a job ) surviving long with a narcissist can destroy you mentally, avoid any contact or conversation, personal or not, to avoid the fights and the pressure