hurt and seem to not be heard TW

Trigger warning

tonight we really could have used support and yes we asked a question  and how others might handle this as we unsure right now

the friend some of you might remember what was going on. in  march we end the friendship due to unsuspected for our boundaries  well tonight she texted us said they could not find our ex boyfriend we did text back saying we did not know were he was and not talked to him in long time. we was being kind and thoughtful why we texted her back

after that she called we did not answer and then she texted call me we did not answer again then she left a voice mail but it was about her dad when he died in February  and that she changed her feeling about that but at first she stated she had changed we  do not believe she has and if so why did she not state she changed why we end the relationship then that she work on the issues

so we did try to explain in chat only thing  stated that we needed to learn boundaries and well that why we left friendship due to she not respected our boundaries  then got mad when we kelp them even made it about her abandonment issues like we  was to like not have personal space due to that we feel she needs to own her own issues and work on healing them are we wrong

another   one in chat stated she still wants to be friends but as we explained it was one sided friendship that was clear she also was gossiping  about others telling us the stuff  at club we no longer was going to club due to the drama there  it was effecting our mental health so was being her friend we known her 8yrs met her right after we moved here out of the daily  abuse from family  she reminds us so much of our mom and her actions too

so we end this friendship one other time it was for a year but when we became her friend again out of kindness she had not changed at all so we feel it be same this time too

so well we unsure to risk it again as it was bad on our mental health really bad  we after ending friendship doing much better mentally  she unwilling to do healing work blames others for upsetting her  she will not even see a therapist   now say she know it all due to she went to collage and has a social  workers degree but she never was one never worked as one at all

but she unable to even work on like CBT skills to help she will not try anything at all say none of them work for her but  not wanting to learn new ones or try new ones

so this added a lot of stress on us as she expected us to entertain  her when she was bored she wanted to talk on phone for hours but if we said anything that we needed to have support in she say she had to go every time

so think it was tonight awful others could not support us listen to us everyone in room stopped talking  we was not there to added drama at all we  support  others here a lot but seem when we need support it like was tonight sadly

we do know some who do support us when we need it even if they unsure how to they listen 

today been awful day we are having apartment inspection in morning so stressed out about that seeing we had surgery  last Wednesday  and Thursday  the note was in door it for all apartments in park but we get very little little notice  before hand our apartment was mess still have things to do too

then this added stress and stuff is weighing on  us

thank you everyone who read this all