sa?
almost 2 years ago i was SA on halloween,
i was staying with a guy i knew and his friend. i ended up getting extremely drunk and passing out on the bed, to which both of them touched me and his friend ended up having intercourse with me.
i haven’t fully recovered from it,
fast forward to now im in a relationship w my bf of 1 year.
a couple months ago my bf and i got home from the bar and i was way too drunk, i was throwing up in the bathroom and passed out on the bathroom floor. i later woke up naked in bed with no memory of anything, i felt something on my back and asked “what’s on me” (we know what was on me.)
my bf replies “we just had sex”
to which u responded. “when??”
i was in and out of consciousness still drunk and so confused kept asking when did that happen??
wasn’t i just throwing up??
he said i initiated it and started to get mad at me
frustrated “yes we had sex”
he started looking at me like i was crazy.
he says “you started it u took my pants off i barely had a choice”
to which i just asked so confused why did u have sex with me if i was just throwing up?
he tried to send me home and break up with me.
“how dare u accuse me of rape” “im not gona be in a relationship with someone who accuses me of rape”
“im ur boyfriend u really think i would do that??”
i never even mentioned SA at all. all i did was question why it happened?
not one reassuring word came out his mouth just shaming.
i don’t remember initiating anything nor do i remember the intercourse at any point.
im terrified to admit that this was sa.
i haven’t spoke to him about it since.
@junebug777777
I'm so sorry that this happened to you at Halloween 🥺 To have your trust violated by a friend you trusted. There's no justification. And in the case of your current bf, it was sadly also sa, you weren't in a fit state to consent and you don't have intercourse with someone who is incapacitated and getting sick, I'm so sorry tou had to experience this again, you however are not to blame, your bf is solely accountable and was aware you were in no fit state 🥺💜
thank you that means a lot. im having a really hard time admitting that it really happened that way, my brain is working overdrive to block it out, is it wrong to stay with my bf? it feels like such a waste to make a scene and leave him over it even tho it has really affected me.
@junebug777777
Honestly , I would be gone, it's not a out making a scene, it's about trust and your safety and he prioritised neither, but only you can decide for you what is best 💜
@junebug777777
He guilted you because he knew he was wrong, and that's why men get away with it
@junebug777777
You did nothing wrong!
@junebug777777 I'm sorry for what happened with your then friend. It's hard to recover from something like that. Especially when you trusted them.