Abused abuser
Hi,
I’m new. I need help to become a better person and parent. I repeat crappy actions that hurt my adult child. I was massively physically and mentally abused growing up. I even chose abusive boyfriends and spouse. I thought I was being a good parent because I didn’t hit my kid. Turns out I was and am a mentally abusive jerk. I don’t have romantic relationships due to self loathing and fear of selecting another abuser.
my child also suffers from mental illness. I tend to trigger my child. When angry my child will lash out yelling and belittling me. Sometimes hitting me and leaving bruises.
@yellowLion2167
Your child hitting you is not right, anger and similar behaviors as a consequence of their mental illness is understandable but you don't deserve this disrespect either
Is child counseling or parenting help an option for you to consider currently?
I feel they can be supported with a counselor who can guide them to manage anger better and in healthy way
I'm sorry you've experienced so much abuse throughout the years but you didn't deserve it and none of it was your fault , you please hang in there and try to heal as much possible 🤍
Proud of you for trying and wanting to become better
Offering hugs ❤
Thank you for listening. She is 24. She flies into rages. I try to be very careful with what I say and do, but I’m always screwing up. I took her to therapy when she was a minor. She just sees a psychiatrist once in a while for meds. She believes regular therapists are an uneducated mass that is a waste of her time.
@yellowLion2167
Im really sorry you have to walk on eggshells around her 😕 I get it though, it is not easy being around her
You try so hard ❤ you are a good parent