He's back
So 3 years ago i was abused. It started 4 years ago and then i finally left him after it had gone on for a year but i just start to heal around summer and almost start to actually move on and then he shows up at my church last week. And went to my church previously thats how we met but i had been hearing from people that hes been wanting to come back to the church regularly and i know him and how he is so trust me when i say im going to be seeing him more often aka twise a week. Ever sense i saw him last week it just messed me up. I was wondering if anyone has any advice or strategies that can help to deal with seeing him cuz i cant avoid the situation sadly. But if theres anything that you guys know that could help at all please let me know.
Hi babydriver! I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through. I went through something similar when I was a bit younger. You present a very good idea of telling another person that you trust in the church about your situation. It helps to have someone looking out for you. Also, consider keeping very strong boundaries with your ex. Keep your distance and try to stay with other people when they are around. It also helped me to have a get away plan for any places where we might run into each other.
@LovelyRose77 those are great ideas and supper helpful thank you so much
@babydrivervolkswagen
You are very welcome. Contact me anytime you need to talk. My stalking situation lasted just over 10 years so I have a lot of tips. Planning ahead for bad situations is your best tool. It'll also keep you calm to know that you have a plan should things go badly. Take care, and be safe.
