Parental trauma and child abuse triggers

I got triggered by a random post on fb. Only going to post here for 2 mins and then go to bed because I have two hours of work to finish tomorrow.

I experienced emotionally abusive parents who also were very emotionally unavailable. I get triggered when I hear or see other people defending treating children in harsh ways. In this case, it was around having very young children, even 3-5 year olds do chores around the house. I agree with probably older kids, like 13+ years old, but the very young ones seemed extreme when I feel kids should be playing and exploring. Also, personally I grew up with parents that were emotionally abusive around making small mistakes like leaving the light on. I have anxiety about cleaning, because I feel like a failure if things are messy because I'm not feeling well or I'm busy.

As an adult, I'm finally able to enjoy doing things like folding laundry and cookies, because I'm no longer living with abusive parents. I don't think very young kids should learn chores to "discipline" them. I would rather feel that everyone under MY roof is there to feel warm and loved and taking care of the space is part of helping each other and building community and happiness. And if someone's room is a mess because they are depressed, they will receive help and understanding instead of being condemned as lazy and irresponsible.

PLEASE PLEASE don't respond to debate the issue on this thread.