what are some safe & healthly coping methods? (TW: SELF HARM MENTION)
i used to use self harm as a coping method, but ive been clean for about a year now. but ive been having intrusive thoughts and memories of my trauma recently,, i really need some safe and working ways to cope with my trauma, anybody have any suggestions?
@purpleOak9329
I like TIPP skills. Particularly, either placing my face in a bowl of ice water for 30 seconds, taking a break for 30 seconds and doing for a total of 5 or 6 times OR using an ice pack on my face on and off for 30 seconds at a time while deep breathing. It triggers the dive reflex which lowers the heart rate which I find helps disconnect me from the intensity of emotional pain. Those with a heart condition may wish to check with their doctor or consider other methods. I learned this from nowmattersnow.org.
@purpleOak9329
What really worked for me is keeping your mind elsewhere keep your mind occupied don't think about it too much I know that is easier said then done but, When you keep at it and, Keep practicing you will eventually get into the mindset. It takes time. You will have some relapses but, That only means that you are absolutely trying to get better. Mistakes are proof that you are in fact trying. Plus, The only true failure is when you stop trying. Another thing is the rubber band method but, Sometimes, It works sometimes it doesn't if the urge is really strong sometimes its difficult to avoid falling into a relapse. The main thing is to keep your head held high because your never truly alone because someone is going through the exact same thing you are going through. I have scars myself... I have been their and, I know what it's like I have been clean from self harm for going on 4 years now... And, Theirs not a day that go's by that I don't think about it. To say well just simply stop cutting or, Hurting yourself is belittling and, Disrespectful because what people who haven't struggled with Self Harm don't realize is it's an addiction your body craves it like a drug. I really hope your doing alright if you ever need to chat I am here for you! <3 ~ Much love Salem.