Don't know what to do
So my family has gone through lots in the past and I am always there to support them no matter what.. It can get quite draining because I don't feel like I get it back. However, I was sexually abused when I was younger and currently someone close to our family is kind of going through the same thing ( a young kid possibly be being curious says he didn't but is being accused (6years old) it's being looked at right now). My mom is saying I should call and give my support but I don't want to get involved because it still a little to close to my heart and I don't want to side with anyone because a) I know what the little girl is going through and b) if the guy is telling the truth than I don't want it to look like I wasn't there. I feel like I disappointments my mom by saying I don't want to be involved. What's everyone opinion?
im depressed and i cut and i dont know how tostop
Guys. I actually want to know what all of you think about this? I sort of ended things between me and the person I love for no reason. And he didn't stop me. Now he has passed out of college and settled elsewhere. But now that we talk just as friends I want everything back. I miss him too much. But I am happy with my life. It's just him that I believe will complete it. What I think is if I continue being friends and get him to trust me again, I can bring us back together. Do you think this happens? Because he is my first and I want it stay like that. Do you think we could get back together?
You have to ask yourself why you orginally dumped him. Was a he irresponsable? Did he cheat? Not care about you? Or did you simply not have the time and energy for a relationship at the time? Also, do you see yourself spending the rest of your life with him? Can you forgive his quirks that may never change? My mother and stepfather broke up a few times, but eventually ended up married and they still adore each other 16 years later. Make sure he is worth taking back and that you're not blinded by infatuation. Good luck :-)
I'm only 19 and this was my first relationship. He is 22 and it wasn't his first. And he was irresponsible, he cared about me but never showed it. Nor was he expressive. I had expected a lot from him that time because I had no idea what relationships are all about. But he always told me to be patient and that he was serious about me. I know we are young and I am immature, but yes! I want to spend my life with him. And I'm fine if he still remains the same. But I don't know how to get him back. Because he may have moved on. And I know I can't move on. I'm so determined to have him back that I'm scared I may lose him forever.
If he already has a another girlfriend, don't intervene. However, if he just lives far away, talk to him about it, ask him what he thinks. Always keep in mind that it may take years before you get him back, you may have to wait till you're done with school or have a stable job, etc. If it's meant to happen it will, but the first step is seeing if he has mutual feelings. Don't rush it and don't act out of desperation. No matter the outcome, it will be ok.
Exactly! I don't want to rush this time. Because that's what I did the last time. The thing is I don't know how to tell him this and ask him if he feels the same without sounding desperate. And no, he doesn't have a girlfriend. But he might do in the future if he has moved on. I don't mind waiting, but I want him to know that I am waiting.
I'm going through a lot of things right now and fair enough I know it can get on peoples nerves when im sad all the time and moan about things. Me and my boyfriend have been together 19 months and hes always been there for me through thick n thin. But the other day something changed, I went to see him and that day I was especially sad and clingy. I dont have any family so he is the one person I fully love and trust. He has my heart. Anyway he got mad at me said some of the stuff im sad about is stupid and that when I used to be more independent and needing him less that was better. In a few messages since then ive implyed him leaving me like hes left messed up friends who weren't getting better in the past. Not once has he reassured me and denyed it. He used to love me so much and now so quickly its like I dont matter. Ever since my last message to him again mentioning him leaving me n then him not denying it I havent messaged him all night and morning, I want him to be worried and message me and see that im not ok thatI love him and need him. But he hasn't messaged me once seeing if im ok. I dont know what to do, do I message him or do I wait? Its killing me.
I suggest contacting him to find out what is going on but if he doesn't answer wait fir him to come to you. You always have us here on seven cups.
