Healing: how long is too long?
It happened in October. I took just about the entire semester to cry and neglect my studies. I locked myself in my room and never left my house. After finally going home in December and telling my mom, things did get better and now I have someone to talk to, but am I even allowed to still be upset? Why cant I get over it? when will I be normal again? How long until my few confidants grow tired of my sadness? I feel guilty for even being upset as I have so much support. Shouldnt I feel better by now?
@mapare Reading this made me wonder, is the someone you can talk to a professional who is actually providing specialist treatment? If so, then they will have an idea of how long it might take you to recover fully. It would not be unusual for treatment to last several months, as far as I know.
If no professional is involved, or if it's a professional who doesn't know how to provide treatment, then I suppose it could take much longer.
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Charlie
@mapare
I am so sorry you are experiencing this. Healing takes times. There isn't a definite time that you must get over it. However, seeing a therapist would help you heal and recover more quickly than not seeking help. Talking to someone would also extend your support system. You would not have to depend on your friends as much. It's wonderful they are around to help. Sometimes, though, you need someone who is a professional and understands how you feel. If you need someone to chat with about this or any other issue related to this, please feel welcome to contact me. I wish you the best!
@mapare
I am not sure...myb there in not right onser...we do best we can with what we know.
Mental health issues are uncomfortable, for you and for your loved ones. It's like that for everyone, it's not just you "weighing" on your support system. The longer you'll beat yourself up for being upset, the more it will take to heal. You shouldn't "be better by now", it's been just a few months, trauma is not something that goes away after just a few months. The time it takes is different for everyone and depends on various things: how bad the trauma was, how was your mental health when it happened, what tools" you had already learned to cope with hard times, and how much support you'll get for example.
To me, it happened almost 6 years ago. For years I denied what happened was anything wrong, then I realized what it was, but still I couldn't... how can I say? "connect" with what happened, in my head the girl that was there in those moments was not me, absolutely. Now I connect on-and-off, in the moments where I'm closer to the girl that was abused my ptsd and anxiety go worse, in the moments where my head runs away and refuses to accept what happened, ptsd is almost silent, but my mood swings like crazy and I know healing is much slower, if not stationary.
I'm not saying you'll need 6 years to heal, I hope not (I had not-so-good mental health and awful support when it happened), but just be at peace with it. I know it's not easy, I tend to beat me up too often times. But there's no use, really, you need to take your time, to think about yourself, and don't forget to be proud of yourself for every little step you make in your healing. It can have ups and downs, take unexpected turns, it's not something you can plan, unfortunately. Just stick with it, talk with the people who want to support you, let them know how you feel about this whole matter and about them, and hopefully everything will go for the best.
Best wishes, much love and take care
@mapare