Lonely

@risktones200

Hi friend ❤ Thanks so much for sharing this, I know it's really vulnerable, and that took a lot of strength. You're safe here.

First of all, welcome to 7Cups! Here is a welcome pack that I hope can be helpful as you get acclimated.

I'm so sorry to hear about that abusive relationship. It must have been so difficult for you, not only to experience that but to realize what was going on and to ultimately leave the relationship.

Consent is tricky, as it's something that not a lot of us were taught about. A way that might be helpful to think about it is that only yes with an exclamation mark counts without further conversation.

Any situation where you feel forced, uncomfortable, scared, or guilty to say yes is cocertion, and isn't concent.

To say that another way, maybe doesn't mean yes. Yes one time doesn't mean yes every time. "Yeah I guess so," means you probably need to talk about it first. Only "yes!" means yes.

Friend, you don't have to use the word rape if you don't want to. If that's a word that reclaims your power or explains what happened, use it! But please don't feel pressured to use any words that feel uncomfortable. It's your life, and you decide what counts.

I know you said it feels lonely, and I understand. It wasn't your fault. No ifs, but, or ands, friend, it wasn't your fault.

I hope this has been helpful, and that your discomfort eases soon.

Sending warmth 💜🌿