New here..help with a trigger!

****Trigger Warning**** Please exercise caution if you feel yourself being triggered

Backstory: When I was 10, everytime my mom went to the grocery store or some other errand, my dad would take me to his room, if he was home. He would rape me, and force me to perform oral sex if I told him no or to stop or said ow. This lasted a while, 3 years, don't judge, took some time to work up the courage to tell, my mom was not very sympathetic towards anything. Later found out my mom was allowing it and leaving at certain times because my dad supplied her with drugs!

Now.... I have a guy friend who I go out with occasionally. We had messed around, touched and kissed, but never had sex up until this evening because he was a virgin. Afterwards we were talking and he says " man you really wanted to have sex" I said "so, you did too, you pulled me into the room and pushed me on the bed". His response " nope. You just raped me". I get that he was joking. But he knows most of my backstory. And who the he'll jokes about RAPE??? I went off on him. Like horribly. I could not contain myself. I was so livid, I dont even want to talk to him or see him.

How would you respond or approach him now?

edited by dancingRainbow45 explicit wording/content removed to comply with trauma guidelines on posting and trigger warning added