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User Profile: HealingHeart89
HealingHeart89 January 13th, 2015

I always feel selfish because there are a lot more people that need help than I do. I am a compulsive liar. It started when I was small and just escalated into adulthood. I became a compulsive liar as a child from being sexual abused by my cousin and forced to lie about it. I felt so dirty just from what he did to me, but even worse now because it still affects me. I am supposed to get married this fall and I still suffer from this. I want it to stop. I need it to stop. I feel so worthless and alone. I try every day to not do it, but even when I tell the truth I feel useless and just like I am stuck in this giant hole unable to get out.

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User Profile: Ritalyn
Ritalyn January 13th, 2015

Have you tried seeing a counsellor or psychologist to resolve the issue? It appears to be deep-rooted and they are professionals trained to help and not judge you :) will be praying for you to overcome it💪

User Profile: Findmyway55
Findmyway55 January 13th, 2015

Don't feel selfish, as you do need help like everyone on this site. No matter how big or small an issue, it's important if it effects your well being and living a full and honest life. I feel so bad for what you have experienced and how it has formed this compulsion to lie. You need to talk to a professional and get this anger and pain out. I certainly understand your thoughts about lying, as it surely must have started with lying and covering up this horrible violation. Your mind often lies to you and convinces you to do things to protect you, when you're really hurting yourself in many ways. This violation doesn't have to define who you are, as it doesn't. It was a crime committed against you and you need to get that burden of unfounded shame off your shoulders. A therapist will help you break free and help bring out your true self...an honest and proud person who deserves to be heard and respected. My heart is with you and know you will become the person you truly want to be. Prayers you will find the assistance you need!

User Profile: clearheart
clearheart January 13th, 2015

People come here to talk about what is affecting them, so it's not selfish at all. As for the lying, it sounds like you recognize the source of your pain and that's a great start. Finding a place like 7 Cups where you can really be yourself without judgment may make it easier to be true to yourself?

A long term, issue like being abused can be helped by seeking counseling too. It is a very difficult thing to deal with alone.

User Profile: reliableNest51
reliableNest51 January 13th, 2015

I am lost. I am scared . I may just get lost .

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User Profile: reliableNest51
reliableNest51 January 13th, 2015

I don't wish to be attention seeking. I truly don't.

User Profile: Findmyway55
Findmyway55 January 13th, 2015

What are your issues? Why do you feel like getting lost. Don't be scared, please talk and share. We're here to help! (((((Hugs)))))

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User Profile: reliableNest51
reliableNest51 January 13th, 2015

I am scared that I might just quit . from everything . and it will hurt people so much

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User Profile: Findmyway55
Findmyway55 January 14th, 2015

Don't ever quit on yourself! You are a fabulous person with much to offer this world! Tomorrow is a new day with new opportunities to shine. God made each and everyone unique and special and he NEVER made a mistake. You may not know what your special talent is today, but believe me, you will find it. Be patient, think about what makes you happy and pursue it more. Maybe it's sports, maybe it's a craft, maybe your a great listener to others, maybe it's your compassion to others....there is so much you may be overlooking that others see so clearly.

User Profile: Findmyway55
Findmyway55 January 14th, 2015

Sorry, this app froze on me before I was done. Find someone you trust, a teacher, your parents, someone you can pour out how you are feeling. Talking does so much more than you may think to help redirect your thoughts in a positive direction. You need to see your tremendous value and how giving up will prevent you from seeing what you can accomplish and make a difference in your life and many, many others. We need you here! Please find that person to talk to, they will care, as I do!! ((((Hugs))))

User Profile: Findmyway55
Findmyway55 January 14th, 2015

Sorry, this app froze on me before I was done. Find someone you trust, a teacher, your parents, someone you can pour out how you are feeling. Talking does so much more than you may think to help redirect your thoughts in a positive direction. You need to see your tremendous value and how giving up will prevent you from seeing what you can accomplish and make a difference in your life and many, many others. We need you here! Please find that person to talk to, they will care, as I do!! ((((Hugs))))

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