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Reminders of my abuser

User Profile: powerfulApricot8111
powerfulApricot8111 May 15th, 2019

Does anyone else get triggered by people who remind you of your rapist? Like if someone has the same body language, speech patterns, clothing style, fingernail length, etc.? This is not where I should start with beginning to deal with what happened but I'm just really curious.

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User Profile: SakoombaKero
SakoombaKero May 19th, 2019

That is how trauma works, you are always reminded in everything...i was abused as a child twice so I feel you...

User Profile: Provii
Provii May 25th, 2019

@powerfulApricot8111

People who remind me of the person who sexually assualted/ abused me usually had long and pretty orange hair.

I don't know why and I feel really weird saying the hair was pretty

considering the awful things they have done to me

User Profile: mhysaofcups
mhysaofcups May 25th, 2019

@powerfulApricot8111 I stumbled upon your question just after journaling about the top 3 things on my mind... and being sexually abused when I was a child was one of those things.

Strangely, I am reminded of my abuser when I'm in a space similiar to where this happened to me. I am reminded of my abuse when someone asks me to spend the night at their house. I am reminded of my abuser when I come close to trusting people and now, can't trust people because look where trust got me before. I am reminded of my abuser when I see his face in my mind, when I smell the beer on his breath or when I remember the way we were close. You are not alone. And they will never be forgotten.

Stay strong love. I sure am trying!